Pure Sex Radio

Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)

My guest today is Brandon Showalter. He is a journalist and podcaster with the Christian Post and has co-authored the excellent ebook, Exposing The Gender Lie, with Dr. Jeff Myers. In his role at the Christian Post, he has written extensively on topics of theological interest in the Church, including developments of the “gender identity” movement and transgender ideology.  

In our conversation, we discuss how Brandon got into writing on this topic, some of the history and roots of the current transgender movement, the truth about real gender confusion, the war over language, and how Christians can respond to those struggling with the cultural narrative as well as true gender confusion.  

To learn more about Brandon and to get a copy of his book, visit ChristianPost.com/ebook/gender-lie. 

More Resources:

• DeadNameDocumentary.com
• Summit.org/protect
• Ministry to Transgender Individuals

Related Podcasts:

• Embracing God's Image in Gender
• Generation Indoctrination: Inside the Transgender Battle
• Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?

What to Do When Your Child ”Comes Out”

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What do you do when your child says they are gay or is exploring a gay identity? How can you respond with grace and truth?

In this episode, we have Danisa Suarez back with us. She is a licensed counselor and sex therapist who has a passion for teaching and coaching others on God’s good design for sex. This includes helping parents navigate the difficulty of a child pursuing a gay identity.

If you, or a parent you know, is facing such a challenge, this episode will give you hope and practical ideas. 

To learn more about Danisa and her counseling services, visit CCICounseling.com.

More Resources:

• What Does the Bible Really Teach About Homosexuality?
• Embracing the Journey
• The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender

Related Podcasts:

• God Made Boys and Girls
• Explaining God's Design for Sex to Your Kids
• Embracing God's Image in Gender

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Helping Men Understand a Woman’s Grief Process

How can a man who has sexually betrayed his partner understand her grief process and why is this important for the potential restoration of the relationship?

Today’s guest is Karla Downing. Karla has been on the podcast multiple times and provides a wealth of wisdom and practical advice for couples navigating difficult challenges in their relationship. In this episode, she helps men understand the grief process of a woman healing from betrayal trauma by highlighting each stage: 

• Denial
• Anger
• Bargaining
• Depression
• Acceptance
• HOPE

 

Men, if you want to better love and serve your wife in her healing journey, this podcast will give you practical insights. 

To learn more about Karla and her resources for couples, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.

More Resources:

• Bebroken.org/men
• Bebroken.org/wives
• Untangling Emotions by Grove and Smith

Related Podcasts:

• The Recovery Process for Couples
• 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage
• Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal

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Becoming a Healing Church

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Our guest today is Sam Black. Sam is the director of recovery education at CovenantEyes and the author of the new book, The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It.

In our conversation, Sam shares who he wrote this book for (pastors and ministry leaders) and why he wrote it (to help them better understand why people get stuck, why they often stay stuck, and how the church holds the answers for freedom, not just for individuals but for families and leaders, too).

To learn more about Sam and get a copy of the book, visit TheHealingChurch.com.

For a FREE copy of the book, go to https://www.signupanywhere.com/signup/hrmupv0t (available to the first 50 people; US addresses only).

More Resources:

• The Victory App
• Safe by Nick Stumbo
• Ministry to Transgender Individuals

Related Podcasts:

• How False Grace is Perpetuating Abuse in the Church
• Reframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity
• Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?

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Why Must I Learn Me?

“A life unexamined is only half-lived.” -paraphrase of Socrates

We talk all the time in our ministry and on this podcast about men needing to get on a growth mission, especially as it pertains to emotional growth. 

In today’s episode, Stephen and I get passionate about helping men grasp why it is important to understand yourself and how to learn yourself in a way that leads to greater peace, joy, and love. 

If you feel stuck or confused about how you fit into God’s great design and plan, you will be encouraged by this episode. You are greatly loved and have a great purpose.

More Resources:

• Growth Map by Stephen Cervantes
• Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop
• Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith

Related Podcasts:

• 15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men
• Why Men Struggle to Love
• How to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature

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Conflict Management in Marriages Healing from Betrayal

Conflict is inevitable in marriage. But often couples assume that all conflict is bad or wrong and believe the goal is to eliminate it altogether. But my guest today has a different approach when it comes to conflict in marriage. 

His name is Andrew Arthur and he is a mediation specialist with both personal experience and professional expertise in addressing conflict in marriage. In this episode, Andrew helps us to normalize the reality of conflict, gives a simple definition of conflict, how to navigate the needs and interests of both parties in the conflict, and unpacks the 5 specific “conflict styles” and how they intersect in marriage. 

If your marriage is struggling with conflict and how to resolve it in constructive ways, this conversation with Andrew will help. 

To learn more about Andrew and the mediation services he offers, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.

More Resources:

• Find a Counselor
• Prepare-Enrich
• 40 Days of Oneness

Related Podcasts:

• I'd Rather We Fight than Not
• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
• The Goal is Connecting

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Protecting Your Child from Predators

Today’s subject matter is something we rarely like to talk about, but is extremely necessary for parents considering the sexualized culture we live in. Our topic is protecting your child from predators. 

Our guest is Dr. Beth Robinson, a licensed professional counselor, professor, and a certified school counselor with over 25 years of experience in caring for traumatized children and educating parents on how to better protect their children from danger. 

In our discussion, Dr. Beth helps parents deal with their fears around this topic, when and how to talk to their kids about sex and safety, how to choose a baby-sitter, what to do if parents think their child is a victim of sexual abuse, addressing technology, and more. 

To learn more about Beth and the resources available to parents who want to better protect their kids, visit KidsCallMeDoc.com.

More Resources:

• Protecting Your Child from Predators by Dr. Beth Robinson
• The Safe Touch Coloring Book
• Critical Conversations Webinar for Parents

Related Podcasts:

• Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World
• God Made Boys and Girls
• Fighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About Sex

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Why Don’t I Connect Better?

A life of peace and joy and hope is intimately tied to one’s ability to connect well in relationships. And when you have experienced trauma or addiction or shame this skill can seem virtually impossible to imagine. 

In today’s episode, Stephen brings a multitude of comments made by men who struggle to connect well in their relationships. We unpack these comments in hopes of helping you gain insight into your own connecting skills and make appropriate tweaks to improve.

More Resources:

• Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith
• Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy
• 40 Days of Training for Your Soul

Related Podcasts:

• 15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men
• Why Men Struggle to Love
• How to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature

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The Need for Boundaries After Betrayal

Boundaries are essential after betrayal, but few have any experience of knowing what boundaries to set and how to set them.

In this episode, Tammy Gustafson helps us navigate this delicate but necessary topic. Tammy is a licensed counselor who is passionate about helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, and betrayal. 

Boundaries are more than just drawing lines and enforcing consequences when they are crossed. They are about safety, responsibility, self-care, and the building (or rebuilding) of healthy relationships. 

To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com.

More Resources:

• Betrayal Healing Courses
• Wives Care Groups
• First 7 Days for Wives

Related Podcasts:

• The Why and How of Boundaries in a Recovering Marriage
• Boundaries for Wives
• More Boundaries for Wives

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The Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle

Addiction can be simply defined as a repeated cycle of unhealthy or harmful behaviors that gets worse over time. In order to break free from addiction, recovery must include understanding this cycle and how to respond differently to its triggers.

Today’s guest is Vern Tompke, a 30-year pastor, podcaster, and founder of Band of Brothers, a community of men helping men find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. Vern has developed what he calls the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle as a tool for helping men understand their addictive cycle and how to respond more quickly when tempted to go down old paths of self-destructive behaviors. 

To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care or Vern's Podcasts.

Download the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle Diagram

More Resources:

• Finding Traction Course
• Gateway to Freedom Workshop for Men
• Find a Counselor

Related Podcasts:

• Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of Life
• Exposing the True Impact of Porn
• Breaking Free with Russell Willingham

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