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Fully Known, Fully Loved: Why Only God Can Meet Our Deepest Desires

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!

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In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes to explore the deepest desires of the human heart — to be fully known, loved, forgiven, enjoyed, and celebrated. We discuss how these beautiful, God-given desires can become problematic when we turn them into demands on other people. 

While humans can love and forgive abundantly, only God can do so fully. We also reflect on how concepts like the Five Love Languages can unintentionally create unrealistic expectations in relationships. Ultimately, we're reminded that true fulfillment comes from delighting in God, who meets our heart's desires perfectly.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Exploration of deep human desires: being fully known, loved, forgiven, enjoyed, and celebrated.
• Distinction between desires and needs, emphasizing the potential for disappointment when desires are treated as needs.
• Discussion on the limitations of human relationships in fulfilling these deep desires.
• The spiritual versus earthly realms and how they relate to human experiences of love and forgiveness.
• Consequences of placing unrealistic expectations on others based on concepts like the Five Love Languages.
• The idea that only God can fully meet these desires, while humans can only offer love and forgiveness abundantly.
• The importance of accepting human limitations in relationships to avoid disappointment and anger.
• Encouragement to seek fulfillment of desires through God rather than through others.
• Recognition of the growth potential in human relationships as individuals learn to love more abundantly.
• The role of earthly relationships in reflecting God's love and grace, while acknowledging their inherent limitations.

More Resources:

• Resources for Men
• Resources for Wives
• Resources for Family

Related Podcasts:

• Why Jesus?
• I Want to Be Known
• Knowing Your True Identity Beyond Sexual Brokenness

 

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Critical Conversation #4: Dealing with Temptation

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!

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In this episode of Family Time, I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care Director, to discuss the fourth of our six “Critical Conversations” for parents: Dealing with Temptation. We explore how to help kids recognize and respond to temptation without shame, emphasizing grace, honesty, and open communication. 

Norma shares practical tips for building trust, normalizing temptation as a human experience, and equipping children with lifelong skills for integrity. We also talk about common barriers parents face and offer resources to support families on this journey. It’s all about progress, not perfection!

For all of our Family resources, including our free Critical Conversations online course, visit Bebroken.org/family.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of discussing sex and sexuality with children in a sexualized culture.
• Overview of the "Critical Conversations" series for parents.
• Focus on "Dealing with Temptation" as a key conversation topic.
• Understanding temptation as a universal human experience.
• Strategies for parents to help children recognize and resist temptation.
• The significance of approaching conversations with grace rather than shame.
• Common barriers parents face in discussing temptation with their children.
• The role of parental honesty and sharing personal experiences in building trust.
• Practical exercises for parents to engage children in conversations about temptation.
• Resources available for parents to further support these discussions.

Resources for Next Steps:

• Critical Conversation Online Course (free)
• Father-Son Accountability* by John Fort
• Girl Talk by Ashley Jameson

 

For more parenting podcasts, go to Bebroken.org/tp-pods and scroll to Family Bundles.

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Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce: Healing After Infidelity Breaks Up Your Marriage

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In this episode, I sit down with Linda McDonald, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss her personal journey through betrayal, divorce, and healing on her own after her husband’s affair. Linda shares how her experience inspired her new book, “Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce,” and introduces the term “betrandoned” to describe the unique, compounded grief of betrayal and abandonment. 

We explore the stigma, shame, and lack of closure in post-affair divorce, and Linda offers honest, faith-filled advice for finding hope, support, and true forgiveness after deep relational trauma.

To learn more about Linda and get her book, visit LindaJMacDonald.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal experiences of betrayal and divorce
• The concept of "betrandoned" (betrayal + abandon) and its implications
• Compounded grief associated with infidelity and divorce
• Differences in societal perceptions of widows versus divorcees
• The stigma and shame surrounding divorce due to infidelity
• The lack of rituals and support for those experiencing divorce from infidelity
• The process of recovery and the importance of brutal honesty
• The role of forgiveness in healing from betrayal
• The significance of finding supportive communities and resources
• The potential for redemption and hope after trauma and loss

More Resources:

• Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce* by Linda MacDonald
• Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce Workbook*
• "Betrandoned" YouTube Playlist

Related Podcasts:

• Betrayed and Abandoned on Affair Healing Podcast
• Dealing with Divorce, Betrayal Trauma, and Hope
• Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?

 

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Healing Trauma: Understanding the Body's Role in Spiritual & Emotional Wholeness

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!

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In this episode, I welcome back Kristin Cary to explore the mind-body connection, especially how our bodies respond to trauma and betrayal. Kristin shares insights from her ministry, Living Truth, explaining how God designed our nervous systems to protect us through natural responses like fight, flight, or freeze. 

We discuss the importance of compassion over shame, practical grounding techniques (like the butterfly hug; even walking or jogging), and the vital role of community in healing. Kristin encourages us to honor our bodies as God’s creation and to approach trauma recovery with patience, curiosity, and faith.

To learn more about Kristin and her ministry, visit Living-Truth.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• The mind-body connection and its relevance to trauma.
• Physiological responses to trauma, including the activation of the vagus nerve and the release of stress hormones.
• The fight, flight, or freeze responses as natural protective mechanisms.
• The impact of betrayal trauma on individuals, particularly betrayed spouses.
• The importance of reframing bodily trauma responses as positive warning systems rather than signs of weakness.
• The experience of shame among Christians regarding trauma responses and faith.
• The significance of understanding the body's signals and their role in emotional and spiritual health.
• Grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to regulate the nervous system.
• The role of community and relational support in healing from trauma.
• The necessity of practicing regulation strategies in calm states to prepare for stressful situations.

More Resources:

• Women in the Battle
• Wives Care Online Groups
• Going Deeper for Betrayed Partners* by Eddie & Teri Capparucci

Related Podcasts:

• The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma Healing
• Emotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed Wives
• Online Care Groups for Wives Facing Betrayal Trauma

 

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Confessions of a Recovering Approval Junkie

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In this episode, I sit down with my friend and decades-long colleague, Dr. Stephen Cervantes, to explore our shared struggles with seeking approval and what it means to be an “approval junkie.” Together, we reflect on why we crave affirmation—from childhood to adulthood—and how this shapes our sense of belonging and self-worth. 

We discuss the dangers of letting approval define us, the role of leaders in fostering healthy communities, and ultimately, how true acceptance comes from God’s unconditional love. Join us as we unpack these honest, relatable experiences and encourage one another toward deeper healing and authentic connection.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. 

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Exploration of the human need for approval and the concept of being an "approval junkie."
• Discussion on the origins of approval-seeking behavior rooted in early childhood development.
• Examination of the impact of seeking approval on self-worth and identity.
• Analysis of the different sources of approval, including peers, leaders, and spiritual figures.
• Consideration of the unhealthy aspects of excessive approval-seeking and its potential to become an addiction.
• Reflection on the role of leaders in affirming others and fostering healthy community dynamics.
• Insights into the emotional struggles associated with conditional approval and feelings of inadequacy.
• Discussion of "image building" and the conflict between external validation and internal acceptance.
• Emphasis on the importance of belonging and the safety it provides in community settings.
• Encouragement for listeners to seek true healing and identity through divine approval rather than human affirmation.

More Resources:

• Going Deeper by Dr. Eddie Capparucci
• Unwanted by Jay Stringer
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men

Related Podcasts:

• Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex Addiction
• The Key to Real and Lasting Freedom from Porn
• Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity

 

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Critical Conversation #3: Preparing for Exposure

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In today’s Family Time episode, I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care Director, to unpack the third critical conversation every parent needs to have with their child: preparing kids for exposure to sexualized content. We talk about why this comes after building trust and discussing God’s design for sex, and share practical ways to equip children for what they’ll inevitably see online or from peers. 

Norma offers encouragement, tips for open communication, and resources to help parents feel confident—not fearful—as they guide their kids through a sex-saturated culture with grace and understanding.

For all of our Family resources, visit Bebroken.org/family.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of discussing feelings and emotions with children as a foundation for trust.
• Understanding God's design for sex and its relevance in today's culture.
• Preparing children for exposure to sexualized content in various media.
• Common sources of sexualized content that children may encounter.
• Barriers parents face in initiating conversations about exposure.
• Consequences of avoiding discussions about sexual content with children.
• Key principles for parents to communicate regarding exposure and boundaries.
• Strategies for keeping communication open and non-judgmental.
• Practical exercises, such as role-playing, to prepare children for potential exposure.
• Resources and next steps for parents to engage in these critical conversations.

More Resources:

• Good Pictures Bad Pictures by Kristen Jenson
• A Family Game Plan for Discussing Porn (online course)
• Family Integrity Trio Bundle (online courses)

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Your Kids Know God's Good Design
• Better Screen Time for You and Your Family
• Brain Defense Digital Safety for Kids

 

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The Anatomy of Awakening from Addiction

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In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes, AKA "Doctor Marriage," to explore the journey of awakening from addiction. Together, we discuss how addiction numbs pain and stunts emotional and spiritual growth, and why facing our pain—rather than running from it—is key to healing. 

Stephen shares personal insights about slowing down, self-reflection, and finding freedom in Christ. If you’re fighting an addiction, we encourage you to embrace courage, seek support, and trust God’s grace as you move from darkness and disconnection into light, connection, and true emotional freedom.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Awakening from addiction and its emotional and spiritual dimensions.
• The role of addiction as a form of numbness and escape from pain.
• The impact of addiction on emotional growth and personal relationships.
• The importance of facing pain rather than avoiding it through addiction.
• The connection between childhood wounds and the onset of addiction.
• The process of self-examination and slowing down to confront personal pain.
• The significance of community, accountability, and spiritual support in recovery.
• The concept of courage in the face of fear and the journey of healing.
• The ongoing nature of awakening and spiritual growth beyond initial recovery.
• The hope and possibility of healing through faith and honest self-reflection.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• 40 Days of Purity online course
• Grace-Based Recovery* by Jonathan Daugherty

Related Podcasts:

• Inviting Men to Wake Up Emotionally and Spiritually
• Maxims that Help Us Go Beyond Sobriety in Recovery
• Are You on an Emotional and Spiritual Growth Mission?

 

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How Couples Can Navigate the "Messy Middle" After Betrayal Trauma

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In this episode, I sit down with Karla Summey, an APSATS coach and couples recovery specialist, to explore the “messy middle” couples face after sexual betrayal. Karla shares her personal and professional insights on navigating the emotional ups and downs, rebuilding trust, and redefining relationships. 

We discuss the importance of emotional regulation, transparency, and patience, emphasizing that recovery isn’t linear. Karla offers hope and practical advice for couples feeling stuck, highlighting the value of community, self-care, and taking small steps forward. It’s an honest, encouraging conversation for any couple walking this difficult road. 

To learn more about Karla and her resources, visit KarlaSummey.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• The concept of "the messy middle" in recovery after sexual betrayal.
• The emotional and relational challenges couples face during the recovery process.
• The importance of individual and couple growth in navigating betrayal trauma.
• The role of emotional regulation and communication in rebuilding trust.
• Common assumptions couples have about returning to their previous relationship dynamics.
• The significance of transparency and initiative from the betrayer in the recovery journey.
• The non-linear nature of recovery, including setbacks and progress.
• Strategies for emotional co-regulation and support between partners.
• The vision for couples beyond the messy middle, focusing on security and intimacy.
• The importance of community and shared experiences in the healing process.

More Resources:

• Messy Middle Couple's Recovery Group
• Online Care Groups for Wives
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men

Related Podcasts:

• Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model
• The Three Phases of Couples Recovery
• The Recovery Process for Couples

 

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Healing from Trauma: Inviting God to Restory Your Life

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In today’s episode, I sit down with Mary DeMuth, author of Restory Your Life, to talk about her powerful journey from childhood trauma and sexual abuse to healing and restoration through faith in Jesus. Mary shares how storytelling, community, and embracing our identity in Christ help us move from brokenness to wholeness. 

We discuss the ongoing nature of healing, the importance of safe spaces to share our unfiltered stories, and how God can re-story our lives for hope and purpose. Mary’s honesty and wisdom offer encouragement for anyone seeking restoration and a new chapter in their story. 

To learn more about Mary and get her books, visit MaryDeMuth.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Mary Demuth's personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and sexual abuse.
• The role of faith in Jesus in the healing process.
• The concept of restoration as a journey from brokenness to wholeness.
• The importance of storytelling and community in healing.
• The idea of "re-storying" one's life and redefining identity through faith.
• The ongoing nature of healing and the layers involved in trauma recovery.
• The significance of expressing thoughts and sharing experiences to break cycles of pain.
• The distinction between healing and maturing in the context of personal growth.
• Practical tools for restoration, including journaling and reflecting on one's story.
• The need for safe spaces in communities, particularly churches, to discuss and address issues of sexual abuse.

More Resources:

• Restory Your Life* by Mary DeMuth
• The Wall Around Your Heart* by Mary DeMuth
• Sex & Anxiety (online course)

Related Podcasts:

• Help and Hope for Women to Heal from Sexual Abuse
• Lord Be Near: Finding Hope in Suffering through Prayer
• Freedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse

 

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From Betrayal to Bonding: Rebuilding Your Marriage After Infidelity

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In this episode, I sit down with Drs. Matt and Laura Burton to talk about rebuilding a marriage after sexual betrayal. We explore their personal recovery and healing journeys, the challenges of rebuilding trust, and why true recovery goes beyond just sobriety. 

The Burtons share insights on the importance of involving both partners, the process of compassionate disclosure, and how addressing deeper wounds is key to restoring relationships. Their warmth and expertise offer hope and practical guidance for any couple navigating the difficult path toward renewed connection and trust after infidelity or addiction.

To learn more about Matt and Laura and their resources for couples, visit MyBecomingWell.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Counseling for couples and individuals dealing with sexual addiction and infidelity.
• Personal recovery journeys of the speakers and their professional experiences.
• Challenges in rebuilding trust after sexual betrayal.
• The importance of involving both partners in the recovery process.
• Complexities of recovery beyond mere sobriety, including intimacy and attachment issues.
• The significance of relational healing in the recovery journey.
• The concept of "gentle disclosure" in the context of rebuilding trust.
• The emotional realities and fears faced by both partners after betrayal.
• The necessity of addressing underlying issues and pre-existing wounds in recovery.
• Resources and support available for couples navigating the aftermath of sexual betrayal.

More Resources:

• 3-Day Couple's Group Intensives
• Rebuilding Trust* by Matt & Laura Burton
• More Books and Workbooks by Matt & Laura Burton

Related Podcasts:

• The Three Phases of Couples Recovery
• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
• The Journey to Stay (with Steve and Lisa Goldberg)

 

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