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How Does Faith Fit Into Recovery?

How Does Faith Fit Into Recovery?

January 18, 2022

In today’s episode, counselor Stephen Cervantes shares with us one man’s ups and downs of his journey of recovery – especially the ups and downs of faith. How does faith fit into recovery? What if Christianity doesn’t “cure” your addiction? Is it okay to wrestle with faith questions on a recovery journey? 

We will peel back the layers of these questions and more to help you discover how faith weaves into recovery in a way that is hopeful, meaningful and life-changing. When you persist with curiosity on your recovery journey, breakthroughs happen!

To help you understand the key principles it takes to break free from addictive patterns, check out the First 7 Days for Men at 7Days.Bebroken.com or the First 7 Days for Women at 7DaysWomen.Bebroken.com.

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Do Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?

Do Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?

January 11, 2022
In today’s episode, we talk about beliefs and how they affect the way you live and interact with others. We especially focus on beliefs about emotions. Do these beliefs move you toward or away from deeper connections with others?

To help you understand the “lens” through which some see the world we will highlight several comments from different men’s lives.

Listen in to gain insights into yourself about what you believe and the effect this has on how well you connect with family, friends, and neighbors.

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Best of 2021: Outgrowing the Porn Pacifier

Best of 2021: Outgrowing the Porn Pacifier

January 4, 2022

Originally Aired: July 6, 2021

Drew was a kid who loved Jesus and hated porn, but still couldn't stop his unwanted behavior. Are you a man who can identify with this vicious cycle? In this episode, our guest is Drew Boa, the founder of Husband Material, a ministry to help men outgrow porn by changing your brain, healing your heart, and saving your relationship. If you want to discover hope for true freedom from porn, tune in to hear Drew's story and practical insights.

Learn more about Drew and his ministry: HusbandMaterial.com

40-Day Online Course for Men: 40Days.PureLifeAcademy.org

More resources for Men: Men.Bebroken.com

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Best of 2021: Helping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal

Best of 2021: Helping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal

December 28, 2021

Originally Aired: January 26, 2021

Sexual betrayal is a tidal wave of pain, confusion, and grief for a wife. It can feel like the very underpinnings of her life have been destroyed; kind of like an emotional earthquake. In this episode, Geremy Keeton introduces Aftershock, a powerful book he co-wrote with Joann Condie to help wives overcome the pain of their husband's secret sin and gain a plan for recovering from such betrayal.

Get your copy of Aftershock at FocusontheFamily.com/Aftershock

Counseling Help: 1-855-771-HELP

Online Course for Wives: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

For more Wives Care Resources, visit WivesCare.Bebroken.com

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How Parents Can Leverage Their Story of Brokenness to Help Their Kids Pursue Integrity

How Parents Can Leverage Their Story of Brokenness to Help Their Kids Pursue Integrity

December 21, 2021

Today my guest is John Fort, the Director of Training at Be Broken and also a family care specialist. John brings a background in education and addiction recovery that gives him a unique perspective on dealing with sensitive issues in today’s modern family. He is also an experienced parent who can understand firsthand the challenges and difficulties of raising kids in a sex-saturated culture.

In our discussion, we highlight the importance of parents being transparent with their kids about their history of sexual brokenness and leverage these conversations to help their kids navigate their own struggles with sexual topics and questions. This conversation deals with the fears that both parent and child likely have, how emotions connect to sexuality, and some practical applications to help families be more open about the ongoing journey from brokenness to wholeness in Christ.

For help having these conversations, get John’s book: Honest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About Sex.

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Emotional Resilience (online course)

A Family Game Plan for Responding to Porn (online course)

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Helping Wives ”Detach with Love” in a Difficult Marriage

Helping Wives ”Detach with Love” in a Difficult Marriage

December 14, 2021

My guest today is Karla Downing, the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She is a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible teacher.

Karla grew up in a dysfunctional family and then found herself struggling with Christian codependency in her own difficult marriage. Through her personal struggles, she discovered biblical and practical principles, which she now teaches to others. Karla’s passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from the chains of dysfunction, misunderstanding, and emotional pain through a correct understanding of what the Bible teaches about relationships.

In our conversation, Karla shares the 10 Relationship Changing Principles she uses to help difficult relationships thrive. We spend much of our time focusing on the principle she calls “Detach with Love” to help wives understand how to separate themselves in healthy ways from their betraying husband’s actions and reactions.

To learn more about Karla and her many resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.

More Resources for Wives: WivesCare.Bebroken.com

Blog: Why Self-Care After Sexual Betrayal is Good Stewardship

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How (False) ”Grace” is Perpetuating Abuse in the Church

How (False) ”Grace” is Perpetuating Abuse in the Church

December 7, 2021

So many stories have come to the surface over recent decades about pastor after pastor who has been living a double life that has hidden all kinds of sexual brokenness and sin. Much pain has been left in the wake of these stories.

In this episode, we read a blog post from Allison Fallon about her personal story of how this kind of betrayal played out in her own life. Then we spend time unpacking some of the key factors that often establish and perpetuate environments of hidden abuse within the church, such as isolation, unchecked and unaccountable power, pride, and even hiding behind one’s “calling.”

We close with giving hope and insights for how true grace-based environments can fight against these kinds of sins and abuses. We hope this episode will help both individuals and leaders to recognize the warning signs of danger and how to fight for truth and genuine grace.

Read Allison's blog post at AllisonFallon.com/grace.

Related blog: The Christian Response to Moral Failure in Church Leaders

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Why Men Need to Practice Sadness

Why Men Need to Practice Sadness

November 30, 2021

There is one simple starting point for men who want to work on emotional development: practice sadness. This may be overly simple, even simplistic. But after engaging with hundreds of men for over 30 years, counselor Stephen Cervantes has discovered that most men hate dealing with sadness. They don’t know how to practice sadness.

Most men think emotions are messy. They hate when women cry. They think sadness is sloppy, crazy, and unnecessary emotion. Most men are good at positive emotions such as fun, play, laughter, and pleasure. They are not so good at disappointment and sadness.

In this episode, we explore the issue of sadness in men and how men can better practice sadness well. We unpack the impact of fathers in training their sons to avoid or ignore sadness. Finally, we help men see sadness as an asset to growth and maturity rather than a liability.

More resources for men: Men.Bebroken.com

Book: Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith

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How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

November 23, 2021

My guest today is Linda MacDonald. She is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with over 30 years of counseling experience. She has written numerous books and articles and spoken on a wide range of topics related to marriage restoration. She is a wife, mother, and grandmother who enjoys hiking and kayaking near her home in Gig Harbor, Washington.

Our conversation today centers around her book, entitled How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. We begin by exploring the 5 options that the betraying spouse has in choosing what to do next after the affair. Then, we explore some of the 15 essential steps for repair, including healthy disclosure, rebuilding trust, responding to your spouse’s triggers, and changing your core character. For couples who want to rebuild after an affair, this book helps provide a solid road map for the betraying spouse.

To learn more about Linda and her resources, visit lindajmacdonald.com.

Book: How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

Blog: Through a Wife's Eyes

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A Journey from Addiction and Control to Faith, Hope, and Love

A Journey from Addiction and Control to Faith, Hope, and Love

November 16, 2021

My guests today are Michael and Heather Norgren. They are the founders of Triggered.app. For much of his life, Michael struggled with an addiction that he couldn't seem to overcome. He tried counseling, pastoral support, recovery programs, bible studies, and conferences. In all of these environments, he learned the importance of vulnerability and reaching out for support when he was feeling triggered.

As a wife to a former addict, Heather is now able to use her story of betrayal to help others who are hurting from broken relationships. Throughout her journey, she has learned much about her own individual healing and how to come alongside someone struggling with addiction with healthy boundaries.

Michael uses his abilities of developing software to create tools to help people in their journey to healing. Heather is using her gifts and passions to connect with individuals, businesses, and ministries to find more effective ways to partner together to bring hope and healing to more people. Together, they use their story to bring God glory.

In today’s episode, Michael and Heather will share with us their story so that it might draw others out into the light of truth, grace, and a new life of joy and purpose.

Please check out their amazing one-click app to help you overcome addiction at Triggered.app.

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