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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.
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Wednesday Aug 28, 2024
Wednesday Aug 28, 2024
In this episode, I chat with Dr. Carol Tanksley, a ministry friend and author of the book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships.
We dive into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and how personal and cultural experiences shape these aspects of our lives. Dr. Tanksley shares her personal journey of learning about sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the importance of addressing heart issues and healing from past wounds. We discuss the difference between intimacy and sexuality, the necessity of community support, and the concept of sexual wholeness. Finally, Dr. Carol offers practical advice on creating an escape plan for temptations and highlights the transformative power of faith and vulnerability.
To learn more about Carol and her resources, visit YourSexpectations.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Exploration of sexuality and intimacy in the context of faith and relationships.
- Personal experiences and motivations behind writing "Sexpectations."
- The distinction between intimacy and sexuality, emphasizing their different roles.
- The importance of addressing emotional wounds and their impact on sexual behavior.
- The concept of sexual wholeness and its three key aspects: releasing the past, right-sizing sexuality, and cultivating intimacy.
- The role of community in fostering intimacy and support for individuals.
- Strategies for creating an escape plan to manage temptations related to sexuality.
- The significance of submitting one's sexuality to Christ for transformation.
- The journey from forgiveness to personal transformation and purpose.
- The potential for healing and redemption from past traumas and experiences.
More Resources:
- Sexpectations* by Dr. Carol Tanksley
- Dr. Carol's Blog
- Rethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli Slattery
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Wednesday Aug 21, 2024
Wednesday Aug 21, 2024
My apologies for the poor audio quality of this episode. I hope it won’t distract too much from the content.
In this episode, Stephen and I talk about the power of "co," meaning "together" or "jointly," in relationships and recovery. We dive into how collaboration and connection are essential for personal growth and healing, especially in marriage and overcoming addiction.
Dr. Cervantes shares insights on co-parenting, co-planning, and co-nurturing, emphasizing that love and community are vital for a fulfilling life. We also discuss the church's role in fostering a sense of belonging and unity. Join us as we explore how embracing "co" can transform our lives and relationships.
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- The significance of the prefix "co" in relationships and community.
- The role of collaboration and partnership in personal growth and healing.
- The impact of addiction on connection and the importance of overcoming isolation.
- Practical applications of "co" in everyday life, such as co-parenting and co-planning.
- The challenges individuals face in embracing a "co" mentality, especially after trauma or addiction.
- The journey of co-expression and the importance of sharing desires and fears.
- The concept of co-nurturing and its relevance in supporting relationships.
- The role of the church in fostering community and addressing emotional and cultural needs.
- The idea of community as "common unity" and the importance of shared goals.
- Encouragement for listeners to actively seek connection and collaboration in their lives.
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Wednesday Aug 14, 2024
Wednesday Aug 14, 2024
In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey Fitzgerald, who shares her profound journey through betrayal trauma and her path to healing. Stacey opens up about the resurfacing of her trauma in 2021, describing intense physical symptoms like panic attacks and a racing heart. She emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous system.
Stacey’s healing process involved spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches, including prayer, music, and understanding the mind-body connection. Now, she helps other women navigate similar experiences through her platform, "Becoming Safe."
To learn more about Stacey and her resources, visit BecomingSafe.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Healing and safety in the context of betrayal trauma
- Personal experiences of betrayal trauma in relationships
- Resurfacing of trauma and its physical symptoms
- The role of spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches in healing
- Importance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous system
- Impact of trauma on mental and physical health
- The concept of holistic healing encompassing spirit, soul, and body
- Tools and resources for women navigating similar experiences
- The significance of community support in the healing journey
- Addressing the interplay between personal healing and external circumstances
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- Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal Trauma
- Emotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed Wives
- Betrayal Healing Phases
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Friday Aug 09, 2024
Friday Aug 09, 2024
In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Kate and Will Conwell about their journey through betrayal trauma and healing in their marriage. Kate shares her work with "Journey Beyond Betrayal," a ministry supporting women facing similar struggles. Will opens up about his past issues with sexual brokenness and infidelity, and how these impacted their relationship. We explore the importance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection and the crucial role of faith in recovery. This episode is all about offering hope and encouragement to couples dealing with betrayal trauma. If this is you, you aren’t alone!
To learn more about Kate and her resources for wives, visit JourneyBeyondBetrayal.com.
To learn more about 423 Men’s groups, visit 423Communities.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- The Conwells' journey through betrayal trauma in their marriage.
- Will's struggles with sexual brokenness and infidelity.
- The significance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection.
- The role of faith in overcoming challenges in relationships.
- The impact of early exposure to pornography on men's relationships.
- The process of confronting and addressing infidelity and its aftermath.
- The importance of self-awareness and communication in marriage.
- Messages of hope for individuals facing relationship struggles.
- Resources and support systems available for healing and recovery.
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Wednesday Aug 07, 2024
Wednesday Aug 07, 2024
In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of emotional growth and the importance of relationships among men. We start by sharing some personal stories about our dads and male role models, highlighting how men often prioritize being providers over nurturing emotional connections.
A key highlight of this episode features a movie character from our Gateway to Freedom workshop, who realizes his potential after being told, "You could have been great." This statement is loaded with powerful insights for men when they realize their lives are running on the wrong tracks. We want men to experience their full potential as image bearers of God; to know him fully and love others deeply.
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- The significance of emotional growth in men's lives.
- The role of relationships and male connections in personal development.
- The impact of societal expectations on men's focus on productivity and financial success.
- Reflections on personal experiences with fathers and male role models.
- The portrayal of an emotionally stunted character in a movie and its implications.
- The wake-up call of recognizing one's potential and the importance of relationships.
- The concept of greatness and how it relates to emotional and spiritual fulfillment.
- The importance of accountability and honest feedback among male friends.
- The transformative power of truth and listening to others' stories.
- Encouragement for men to prioritize emotional well-being and meaningful connections.
More Resources:
Related Podcasts:
- Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test
- A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
- What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?
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Wednesday Jul 31, 2024
Wednesday Jul 31, 2024
In this episode, I welcome back Cat Etherington, the director of recovery at the Naked Truth Project. We explore the profound impact of betrayal trauma on wives and the journey towards healing and forgiveness. Cat explains the stages of healing:
- Safety and stabilization,
- Remembering and mourning,
- Reconnection
She emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, not as a pressured obligation but as a personal outcome of healing. We also discuss how friends and family can provide tangible support during this difficult time.
For more information on Cat and her resources, visit nakedtruthproject.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Impact of betrayal on a wife and the process of healing and forgiveness
- Emotional aspects of navigating betrayal trauma
- Key stages of healing from betrayal trauma
- Importance of forgiveness in the healing process
- Readiness to forgive and precursors in the healing journey
- Differentiating between trauma triggers and grief
- Reconnecting with the world after betrayal trauma
- Support from friends and family for those experiencing betrayal trauma
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Related Podcasts:
- 8 Practical Steps of Forgiveness
- The Recovery Process for Couples
- Helping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal
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Wednesday Jul 24, 2024
Wednesday Jul 24, 2024
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In this episode, I welcome back Pastor Marty Machowski to discuss the pressing issue of identity, particularly sexual identity. Marty shares his experiences counseling families whose children are grappling with gender and sexual orientation issues. He highlights the rapid acceleration of these challenges and introduces his book, "God Made Boys and Girls," as a resource for parents.
We delve into the impact of public education on children's understanding of identity, the importance of grounding identity in biblical truth, and the need for compassionate, open conversations between parents and children.
Marty also shares insights from his support group, "Affirmed," offering hope and practical guidance for families.
To learn more about Marty and his resources for parents, visit MartyMachowski.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Identity and sexual orientation struggles in children
- Impact of public education on children's understanding of identity
- Disconnecting physical reality from emotional and subjective feelings
- Diversity within gender categories and its impact on identity
- Trauma and abuse's impact on individuals struggling with gender identity
- Biblical perspective on identity and being made in the image of God
- Importance of open and honest conversations with children about identity and gender
- Transitioning from being disciplinarians to influencers in children's lives
- Facilitating support groups for families dealing with identity and sexual orientation struggles
- Encouraging parents to build a foundation of relationship and compassion with their children
More Resources:
- God Made Boys and Girls* by Marty Machowski
- Critical Conversations Webinar (Free!)
- Identity* by John Fort
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Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
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In this episode, I welcome back Carol Juergensen Sheets, better known as Carol the Coach, a certified sex addiction therapist. We reminisce about her last appearance in March 2020, where we focused on empathy for husbands. Carol shares her journey since 2007, emphasizing the importance of empathy in all relationships.
She introduces her Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), which involves working with both partners from the start to foster post-traumatic growth. Carol explains the role of empathy in healing from infidelity, highlighting the long-term process and the need for genuine understanding. She also provides resources for couples seeking support and offers a hopeful message for those on their healing journey.
To learn more about Carol and her resources, visit SexHelpWithCarolTheCoach.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Carol's background and expertise in sex addiction therapy
- The importance of empathy in relationships
- Development of the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM)
- Key elements and focus of ERCEM
- The role of empathy within ERCEM
- Challenges and time required for healing from infidelity
- Common misconceptions about empathy
- Progress and resources available for couples seeking support
- Message of hope and encouragement for couples dealing with infidelity
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- Helping Husbands Learn and Practice Empathy
- 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage
- The Recovery Process for Couples
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Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
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In this episode, I chat with Crystal Renaud Day about the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit, a transformative event for women battling unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction. Crystal shares her personal journey and insights from years of ministry, emphasizing the importance of surrender, accountability, and community in recovery.
We discuss the summit's role in providing a safe, supportive space for women and even teens to find healing and resources. Crystal's passion for helping women shines through, and we invite listeners to join the summit and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.
To learn more about the SHE Summit and register, visit SheRecovery.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- SHE Virtual Recovery Summit
- Support and resources for women struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors
- Personal experiences and insights from Crystal Renaud Day
- Importance and topics covered during the event
- Research on women's view of porn
- Training for women in recovery
- Ministry to women dealing with unwanted sexual behaviors
- Stories of transformation and victory
- She Virtual Recovery Summit as a space for learning, growth, and surrender
- The significance of surrender, confession, accountability, responsibility, and sharing in the recovery process
More Resources:
- SHE Virtual Recovery Summit (use affiliate code BEBROKEN for a 10% discount!)
- What Drives Women to Porn? Survey Results
- 90 Days to Wholeness* by Crystal Renaud Day
Related Podcasts:
- New Research on Why Women View Porn
- Total Freedom for Women Struggling with Porn
- God's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame
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Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
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In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional self-awareness, especially for men – and offer a simple test to measure self-awareness. We explore the different levels of self-awareness, from complete unawareness to deep emotional understanding.
Stephen shares his inspiration for creating this self-awareness test, aiming to help men gauge their emotional awareness so they can continue toward greater awareness and maturity. We discuss how family history shapes emotional patterns and the importance of recognizing triggers.
Our conversation emphasizes the significance of aligning with the Holy Spirit and striving for emotional maturity.
For more insight from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Emotional self-awareness and self-awareness test for men
- Different levels of emotional self-awareness
- Connection between triggers and emotional responses
- Impact of family of origin on emotional patterns and behaviors
- Development of a self-awareness test for men
- Challenges men face in understanding and expressing emotions
- Importance of recognizing and acknowledging one's feelings
- Impact of family of origin on emotional development
- Physical and emotional connections, retraining the mind and emotions
- Alignment with the Holy Spirit and emotional program, journey of growth and maturity
More Resources:
- The Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test
- Growth Map* by Stephen Cervantes
- Grace-Based Transformation* by Jonathan Daugherty
Related Podcasts:
- How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?
- 100 Recovery Rules (with Mark Denison)
- A 3-Year Roadmap for Recovery and Emotional Growth
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