Pure Sex Radio

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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.

Episodes

Jan 28, 2026

From Broken to Brave: Courageous Healing After Betrayal Trauma

Jan 28, 2026

36 min

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!

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In this episode, I sit down with friend and former guest, Tammy Gustafson, a counselor and author of "Broken to Brave," to talk about healing after betrayal trauma. Tammy shares why wives often get stuck in their recovery—especially when pressured to trust or forgive too soon—and explains the importance of grieving and processing emotions like anger and sadness.

We discuss how true healing requires safety, honesty, and support, and Tammy offers practical advice for wives and their loved ones. Whether you’re feeling stuck or wondering when it’s safe to trust again, this conversation brings hope and encouragement for your journey.

To learn more about Tammy and get her new book, visit TammyGustafson.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Healing from betrayal trauma, particularly for betrayed wives.
Common challenges faced by wives during the healing process.
The concept of feeling "stuck" in the healing journey.
The importance of processing grief and emotions like anger and sadness.
The role of trust and forgiveness in the healing process.
The significance of establishing safety before rebuilding intimacy.
The need for emotional safety and understanding in relationships post-betrayal.
The impact of fear and doubt on a wife's readiness to trust again.
The importance of support from loved ones during the healing journey.
Insights from the book Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayals.

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Jan 23, 2026

Critical Conversation #1: Feelings & Emotions

Jan 23, 2026

20 min

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In this episode of our new “Family Time” segment, I chat with Norma Brown, our Family Care Director, about the first of six “critical conversations” parents should have with their kids: Feelings and Emotions. We focus on the importance of talking about feelings and emotions as the foundation for deeper topics like sex.

Norma shares practical tips, resources like the “Honest Talk Game,” and encouragement for parents to build trust and emotional connection. Together, we explore how modeling vulnerability and emotional honesty can help families create a safe space for open, ongoing conversations.

For all our Family Care resources, visit Bebroken.org/family.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Introduction of the "Family Time" segment focused on parenting in a sex-saturated culture.
Importance of having "critical conversations" with children.
First critical conversation centered on feelings and emotions.
Building trust and emotional expression as foundational elements in parent-child communication.
The role of parents in modeling emotional regulation and expression.
Strategies for parents to connect with their children emotionally.
Tools and resources to facilitate discussions about emotions, such as emotion wheels and the "Honest Talk Game."
Encouragement for parents to embark on their own emotional growth journey.
The significance of vulnerability and humility in parenting.
Reassurance that it's never too late to start building emotional connections with children.

Resources for Next Steps:

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Jan 21, 2026

Maxims that Help Us Go Beyond Sobriety in Recovery

Jan 21, 2026

32 min

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In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I roll up our sleeves to explore the journey of recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors. We discuss the deeper transformation needed beyond just sobriety, sharing over a dozen practical maxims and spiritual insights that will help you aim for life beyond recovery.

We reflect on aging, grief, and the challenges of change, emphasizing honesty, community, and trusting God. Through personal stories and recovery wisdom, we encourage listeners to take small, consistent steps, embrace vulnerability, and remember that lasting change is a process—one day, and one choice, at a time.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors and addiction
Importance of foundational change and emotional work in recovery
The role of honesty and obedience in personal transformation
Reflections on aging, grief, and spiritual growth
Application of common recovery sayings to foster progress
The necessity of genuine behavioral and mindset changes
The significance of patience and persistence in the recovery process
The relationship between knowledge and lived experience in transformation
The metaphor of the "hallway" as a space for learning during uncertain times
Emphasis on community support and accountability in the recovery journey

More Resources:

Maxims that Help Us Through Change (blog post mentioned in episode)
Grace-Based Recovery* by Jonathan Daugherty
Transformation Pathway Journal for Men*

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Jan 14, 2026

The Power of Perspective: How Compassion Changes Everything

Jan 14, 2026

33 min

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stephen Cervantes from DoctorMarriage.org to explore how we see ourselves, others, and how Jesus sees us all. We dive into the impact of shame, addiction, and early life experiences on our identity, and discuss the healing power of viewing ourselves through Jesus’s compassionate eyes.

Together, we reflect on practical ways to break free from self-judgment and embrace a more loving, connected life—reminding ourselves that we’re all on a journey toward growth, healing, and deeper relationships, with God, ourselves, and others.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Exploration of self-perception and its impact on personal growth.
Examination of how individuals perceive others and the implications of these views.
Discussion of Jesus's perspective on individuals and others.
The role of early life experiences in shaping self and other perceptions.
The influence of shame and guilt in addiction and identity struggles.
The transformative potential of understanding Jesus's compassionate view.
The connection between self-acceptance and recovery from addiction.
The impact of pain on self-view and behavior patterns.
The relationship between self-identity and social connections.
The importance of compassion and community in healing and personal development.

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Jan 7, 2026

Best of 2025: The Key to Real and Lasting Freedom from Porn

Jan 7, 2026

33 min

Originally aired on January 29, 2025

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In today’s episode, our guest is Noah Filipiak, a pastor, author, and podcaster who is passionate about applying the reality of the gospel to the real struggles and challenges of life, especially struggles with porn and sexual brokenness. Noah opens up about his personal struggles with pornography addiction, which began in his teenage years despite growing up in a Christian home. He shares how vulnerability, community, and a deeper relationship with Christ were key to his recovery.

We discuss the importance of addressing these issues of sexual brokenness openly within the church and fostering supportive communities. A big part of the conversation is helping men understand what the true bullseye is for recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors. Noah emphasizes that true healing comes from understanding one's identity in Christ, not just behavior modification. The good news is that there is hope for truly overcoming any unwanted sexual behaviors through the power of God’s grace and vulnerable community.

To learn more about Noah and his resources, visit BeyondtheBattle.net.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Men's sexual integrity journeys
Personal experiences with pornography addiction
Challenges faced growing up in a Christian environment
The role of vulnerability and community in recovery
The impact of marriage on sexual desires and relationships
Understanding identity in Christ as a foundation for healing
The importance of addressing sexual integrity within the church
Overcoming shame and fear of vulnerability in discussions
The significance of community support in the recovery process
Practical steps for engaging in deeper transformation and discipleship

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Dec 31, 2025

Best of 2025: Are You a Loner or Connector in Your Relationships?

Dec 31, 2025

31 min

Originally aired on March 26, 2025

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In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these differences impact communication and emotional connection, particularly in marriages.

We share insights on personal growth, emphasizing the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's communication styles; we aren’t out to change a loner into a connector or vice versa. We give lots of personal anecdotes and practical advice, aiming to help you navigate these differences to foster deeper connections and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

To read the Thought on Loners and Connectors, go to DoctorMarriage.org/loners-and-connectors.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Distinction between "loners" and "connectors" in personal relationships.
Characteristics of loners: independence, introspection, and internal processing.
Characteristics of connectors: relational, expressive, and dialogue-oriented.
Impact of communication styles on relationships, particularly in marriage.
Importance of emotional connection and its role in relationship dynamics.
Challenges faced by loners in engaging with emotional exchanges.
The necessity of active listening in fostering trust and connection.
Strategies for navigating differences between loners and connectors.
The role of personal growth in improving relationship dynamics.
Encouragement for couples to discuss and understand their connection styles for deeper intimacy.

More Resources:

40 Days to Oneness by Stephen Cervantes
The 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen Cervantes
Building True Intimacy* by Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith

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Dec 24, 2025

Online Care Groups for Wives Facing Betrayal Trauma

Dec 24, 2025

46 min

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In this episode, I sit down with the incredible volunteer team behind the Wives Care groups, which is our eight-week online support group for wives healing from betrayal trauma. Together, we walk through the heart and structure of the program, sharing personal motivations and a week-by-week overview of what participants can expect.

From emotional care and boundaries to rediscovering identity in Christ, we highlight the power of community, faith, and practical tools for healing. If you’re seeking hope and connection after betrayal, this episode offers encouragement, insight, and a warm invitation to join a caring community.

To learn more about the Wives Care Groups – and all our resources for wives, visit Bebroken.org/wives.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Overview of the Wives Care program and its purpose in supporting wives healing from betrayal trauma.
Structure and evolution of the program, including its transition from a six-week to an eight-week format.
Personal motivations and experiences of the volunteer team involved in the program.
Week-by-week breakdown of the program's curriculum, highlighting key themes and activities.
Importance of creating a safe and confidential space for participants to share their stories.
Focus on emotional care, self-regulation, and the grieving process in the early weeks.
Discussion on healthy detachment, boundary-setting, and communication tools for navigating relationships post-betrayal.
Emphasis on rediscovering identity in Christ and addressing the impact of betrayal on self-worth.
Community building and ongoing support opportunities beyond the initial program duration.
Encouragement for women to seek help and connect with others for healing and restoration.

More Resources:

Wives Care Basics Webinar (FREE!)
40 Days of Healing for Wives (eCourse)
6 Stages of Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts

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Dec 17, 2025

Keys to Emotional Intimacy: Empathy, Attunement, and Responsiveness

Dec 17, 2025

31 min

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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and colleague Dr. Stephen Cervantes—Doctor Marriage—to explore the vital roles of empathy, attunement, and responsiveness in relationships. We share personal stories and practical tips for husbands who want to connect more deeply with their wives.

Dr. Cervantes explains how empathy means “practicing sadness with someone,” and we discuss how attunement and responsiveness help build emotional closeness. Whether you’re new to these skills or looking to grow, this conversation offers encouragement and real-life tools for nurturing a more compassionate, Christ-centered marriage.

To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Importance of empathy, attunement, and responsiveness in marriage counseling.
Definition of empathy as "practicing sadness with someone" and its role in emotional connection.
The significance of being present with a partner during their emotional struggles.
Clarification of empathy in a Christian context, equating it with compassion.
The necessity of having the right emotional tools for genuine connection in relationships.
The concept of attunement as matching a partner's mood and emotional state.
The role of nonverbal communication in attunement and emotional connection.
The importance of responsiveness after attuning to a partner's emotional state.
The impact of emotional presence on healing and deeper connection in relationships.
The ongoing nature of learning and practicing these skills for emotional growth in marriage.

More Resources:

Daily Thoughts from Doctor Marriage
Building True Intimacy* by Drake and Raabsmith
Help Her Heal* by Carol J. Sheets

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Dec 10, 2025

Breaking Free from Shame: Knowing Your Identity in Christ

Dec 10, 2025

38 min

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In this episode, our guest is Amber Albee Swenson—mom, Bible teacher, and author—to talk about her book, The Key to Confidence. Amber shares her personal journey from shame and brokenness to finding true confidence in Christ.

We discuss the importance of understanding our identity as God’s children, the power of honest confession, and the vital role of prayer and community in healing. Amber’s transparency and wisdom offer hope for anyone struggling with feeling “not enough.” Join us for a raw, real, and uplifting conversation about grace, faith, and walking confidently in God’s love.

To learn more about Amber and her book, visit AmberAlbeeSwenson.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Amber Albee Swenson's personal journey and struggles with shame and sexual brokenness.
The role of faith and identity in overcoming feelings of inadequacy.
The distinction between self-confidence and confidence in God.
The importance of understanding one's identity as a child of God.
The significance of prayer in building confidence and healing.
The concept of confession and its role in breaking the power of shame.
The idea that past mistakes do not define one's identity in Christ.
The transformative power of communal prayer and support within the Christian community.
The focus of Amber's book as a spiritual resource rather than a self-help guide.
Encouragement to trust in God's faithfulness and power, regardless of personal limitations.

More Resources:

The Key to Confidence* by Amber Albee Swenson
Getting Past the Past* by Amber Albee Swenson
The Bondage Breaker* by Neil T. Anderson

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Dec 3, 2025

Beyond Sobriety: How to Truly Heal from Compulsive Sexual Behaviors

Dec 3, 2025

40 min

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.

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In this episode, I sit down with Sean Maney, director of First Light in St. Louis, to discuss sexual recovery ministry. Sean shares how First Light supports men and women struggling with compulsive sexual behavior through community, therapy, and discipleship.

We then explore the importance of holistic healing and transformation, the cultural normalization of pornography, and how the church’s response has changed over the years. Sean offers hope and encouragement for anyone feeling stuck or ashamed, reminding us that real transformation is possible through grace, community, and a multi-dimensional approach to recovery.

To learn more about Sean and his ministry, visit FirstLightStLouis.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Overview of First Light, a sexual discipleship ministry in St. Louis.
Comprehensive recovery programs for individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behavior.
Importance of community support and accountability in recovery.
Role of therapy and counseling in addressing deeper emotional wounds.
Discussion on the normalization of pornography in society and its impact on individuals and the church.
Cultural shifts in attitudes towards pornography over the past 15 years.
The progression of sexual behaviors from pornography to more severe actions.
The need for a multi-dimensional recovery approach combining groups, counseling, and intensive care.
Challenges faced by the church in addressing sexual brokenness and providing adequate support.
Encouragement for individuals struggling with sexual issues to seek help and embrace community.

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