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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.
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Wednesday Jun 26, 2024
Wednesday Jun 26, 2024
In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional maturity and self-awareness. We explore how childhood experiences shape adult behavior and emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity. Our conversation highlights the role of grief in self-discovery and the impact of critical parenting on self-criticism.
Stephen and I stress the need for honesty, vulnerability, and self-reflection in achieving emotional growth and maturity. We encourage listeners to embrace uncertainty and seek support, underscoring that emotional maturity is a continuous process of growth and understanding.
For more insights from Dr. Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Emotional maturity and self-awareness
- Impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior
- Recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity
- Role of grief in the process of emotional healing
- Impact of critical parenting on self-criticism and judgmental behavior
- Shaping oneness in relationships
- Grief and fear in recognizing emotional patterns and transformation
- Importance of admitting uncertainty and vulnerability
- Embracing the journey of growth and change
- Seeking support and guidance for personal and relational growth
More Resources:
- 49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes
- Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy* by Stephen Cervantes
- Untangling Emotions* by Groves and Smith
Related Podcasts:
- Moving from Being Fear-Driven to Love-Driven
- Why Men Need to Practice Sadness
- How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ
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Wednesday Jun 19, 2024
Wednesday Jun 19, 2024
In this episode, I welcome back Dan Drake and introduce Janice Caudill, both experts in therapeutic disclosure for marriages affected by sexual betrayal. We dive into the importance of truth in healing relationships, discussing how disclosure helps rebuild trust.
In our conversation, Dan and Jaunice walk us through the disclosure process, emphasizing the impact of betrayal, readiness for disclosure, tailored approaches, the “choreography” of disclosure, and the post-disclosure phase that highlights potential obstacles when rebuilding trust.
To get access to Dan and Janice’s resources, visit KintsugiRecoveryPartners.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Development of resources for disclosure in marriages affected by sexual betrayal
- Availability of resources on Kintsugi Recovery Partners website
- Impact of sexual betrayal on relationships
- Definition of disclosure and its importance in healing
- Importance of readiness for disclosure
- Tailored approaches to disclosure based on each couple's unique situation
- Process and key elements of disclosure
- Choreography of the disclosure process
- Significance of disclosure in healing and rebuilding trust
More Resources:
- Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Betrayal*
- Full Disclosure: Seeking the Truth After Betrayal*
- Disclosure Guide Training
Related Podcasts:
- Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure in Marriage Affected by Sexual Betrayal
- Confession and Disclosure for Couples
- How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair
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Wednesday Jun 12, 2024
Wednesday Jun 12, 2024
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In today's episode, I have a heart-to-heart with Stephen Cervantes about the journey of recovery. We dive into how it's more than just getting back on your feet; it's about pausing, finding stability, and reaching out for a helping hand. But that's not the end of the road!
Recovery is this beautiful bridge to an exciting phase of self-discovery and growth. Together, we unpack the deeper mission that lies ahead—embracing the love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and getting to know ourselves better.
So, if you're curious about turning a new leaf and finding purpose post-recovery, this chat is for you. Join us as we explore these transformative steps to a fuller, love-filled life!
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Concept of recovery and transition to a new growth mission
- Importance of stopping and stabilizing in recovery
- Seeking outside help and community support
- Recovery as a bridge to discovery and growth
- Purpose of new growth mission: learning about love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, understanding oneself
- Different interpretations of recovery
- Role of relationships and community in the recovery process
- Recovery as a journey toward growth and learning
- Shift in focus from negative behaviors to love and personal understanding
- Emphasis on community, outside help, and shift in focus towards love and personal understanding
More Resources:
- Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive
- Grace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups
- Grace-Based Transformation* book
Related Podcasts:
- For Men Who Want to Finish Strong
- What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?
- Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your Story
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Wednesday Jun 05, 2024
Wednesday Jun 05, 2024
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In today’s episode, we have Vern Tompke back with us. Vern is our Canadian pastor and coach who helps other pastors and men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors.
We talked about the three key stages of recovery, which are:
- Breaking the habit
- Addressing the deep-seated issues of the heart and mind
- Recalibrating sexuality to enjoy the abundant life Christ offers
Whether you are just starting your recovery journey or years into it, Vern’s wisdom is a beacon of hope. And we mention lots of really good resources that will help you along the way, which we will include in the show notes.
To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care.
Topics Covered in This Episode:
- Three stages of recovery from porn addiction
- Breaking the habit
- Dealing with underlying issues
- Redeeming or recalibrating one's sexuality
- Importance of practical tools, boundaries, and grace-filled accountability
- Addressing underlying lies, pain, wounds, attachment issues, and unmet needs
- The ongoing nature of the recovery journey
- Emphasizing the need to move beyond objectification and consumption of beauty
- Encouraging men to engage in real relationships and build healthy social and coping skills
- Advocating for living in the light, engaging in community, and seeking a fuller understanding of recovery
More Resources:
- Willpower Doesn't Work* by Benjamin Hardy
- The Thing Beneath the Thing* by Steve Carter
- The Psychology of Porn* by Andrew Bauman
Related Podcasts:
- The Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle
- Understanding Freedom, Identity, and Creativity in Addiction Recovery
- A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
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Wednesday May 29, 2024
Wednesday May 29, 2024
The Selfishness Addiction – Yes, you read that right. We're diving deep into how an addiction to selfishness can shape our behaviors and strain our relationships. We’re peeling back the layers of why we sometimes confuse self-preservation with self-centeredness.
Understanding Freedom – We start by exploring the true meaning of freedom. It's not just about breaking free from unwanted behaviors like porn addiction; it's about finding peace, rest, and joy. We're talking about aligning with the soul's fundamental needs, as taught by Jesus himself.
From Selfish to Selfless – We've all been there, right? Putting ourselves first, fast, and completely. But here's the kicker: the more we focus on ourselves, the less satisfied we feel. It's a paradox that we unpack with humor, honesty, and a touch of humility.
A New Perspective – Imagine realizing that your whole life has been a race to put yourself first, only to end up feeling empty. That's the story of a Christian brother who woke up to his selfishness addiction. It's a powerful moment of vulnerability that might just change the way you see your own life.
Growth and Healing – This episode isn't just about identifying the problem; it's about finding the path to healing. We discuss the importance of taking small steps towards giving, towards others, and towards a life filled with genuine connection.
So, if you've ever felt caught in the cycle of coping and surviving rather than truly living, this episode is for you. It's time to break free from the chains of selfishness and step into a life of selfless joy.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Selfishness addiction and its impact on behavior and relationships
- Understanding the difference between healthy self-care and selfishness
- Selfishness driven by fear and focus on one's own desires and needs
- The concept of freedom and its relation to the deeper needs of individuals
- The importance of aligning with the fundamental needs of the soul
- The distinction between healthy self-awareness and selfishness
- The detrimental impact of selfishness on individuals and their relationships
- The immature and wounded nature of selfishness addiction
- The natural order of relationships and the importance of learning to be selfless while still caring for oneself
- The insight and honesty of admitting and addressing selfishness addiction
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Wednesday May 22, 2024
Wednesday May 22, 2024
Shawna Meek, founder of Living Stones Coaching, joins us to share her incredible journey through marriage, divorce, and unexpected reconciliation. Shawna opens up about the challenges she faced in her relationship, from communication breakdowns to confronting her husband's infidelity – and learning how his previously undiagnosed neurodiversity impacted his sexual brokenness and their marriage.
Shawna then shares about setting boundaries, the importance of individual growth, and how she and her husband both worked on themselves to rebuild trust.
Her story is a testament to the complexities of love and the resilience and faith needed to navigate them. As a result of this journey, Shawna turned her personal trials into a passion for coaching and helping others through their own relationship struggles.
To learn more about Shawna and her resources, visit LivingStoneCoaching.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Shauna Meek's personal story and experiences
- Navigating neurodiversity challenges in relationships and marriage
- Seeking help and setting boundaries
- Healing and recovery process
- Individual coping strategies and personal growth
- Building trust and safety in a marriage
- Lessons learned about oneself and each other
- Transformation and growth in relationships
- Overcoming communication differences
- Reconciliation and remarriage
More Resources:
- Determined for More* by Shawna Meek
- Neurodiverse Coaching and Mentoring
- Hope Restored
Related Podcasts:
- The Journey to Stay
- Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from Betrayal
- Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
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Wednesday May 15, 2024
Wednesday May 15, 2024
I'm thrilled to have the amazing Danisa Suarez back on the program. Today, we're tackling a subject that's really important to a lot of people: women's understanding of their own bodies and sexuality.
Danisa has put together an incredible e-course called "The Story of Her," (https://ccicourses.org/thestoryofher) and she's here to share why it's so essential for women to recognize and celebrate their unique design and to confidently step into their womanhood. We're not shying away from the difficult topics either—we discuss how to heal from past wounds and pursue a godly approach to sexual fulfillment. Plus, Danisa’s got some solid, actionable tips for anyone looking for support on this path.
This episode is all about empowering women and deepening their relationship with God. Make sure you don't miss out on Danisa’s valuable insights—follow her on Instagram for more inspiring talks! @danisasuarezoficial
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Importance of understanding women's bodies and sexuality
- Influences affecting women's self-image
- Fighting against comparison
- Challenges faced by women who have experienced brokenness, abuse, or sexual violations
- Lack of mentorship and education for women regarding their bodies
- Impact of social media, mass media, and culture on women's self-image
- Women's sexuality and its connection to confidence, knowledge, and attitudes
- Challenges and roadblocks in the journey towards sexual health and wholeness
- Importance of seeking support and guidance in the journey towards sexual health and wholeness
- Empowerment, encouragement, and finding fulfillment in the relationship with God
More Resources:
Related Podcasts:
- Understanding Female Sexuality and Struggles
- What Men Need to Know About Female Sexuality
- Women and Sex
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Wednesday May 08, 2024
Wednesday May 08, 2024
Why do we fall? This is a deep question and we can’t ever fully answer the “why” questions. But it’s worth the conversation.
In this episode, Stephen and I dive deep into the emotional and spiritual tangles that we all face. We begin by talking about the roots of our emotional programming and then move on to the emotional-spiritual connection and the complexities of stumbling and falling; it’s not just about sin. Emotional maturity is just as vital.
Finally, we aim to provide some practical wisdom for facing emotional pain and the power of community in our healing and recovery journey. Even though we fall, we can get back up!
For daily thoughts to help on this emotional growth journey, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Interconnectedness of emotional and spiritual aspects of human behavior
- Development of emotional program in childhood and its influence on adult behavior
- Common disconnect between strong spiritual knowledge and emotional struggles
- Biblical concept of sin and falling short of the glory of God
- Influence of parental values and language on emotional program development
- Challenges of navigating relationships and emotions in childhood
- Recognizing and addressing unresolved emotional issues in relation to spiritual struggles and addictions
- Understanding the connection between spiritual and emotional programs for maturity and healing
- Exploring breakdowns in the emotional program and addressing emotional pain
- Seeking community support for emotional healing and maturity
More Resources:
- Find a Support Group
- Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive
- Untangling Emotions* by Groves and Smith
Related Podcasts:
- Helping Men Grow and Mature
- A 7-Day Challenge for Emotional Growth
- A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
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Wednesday May 01, 2024
Wednesday May 01, 2024
In this episode, we're hanging out with the dynamic duo, Linda Stewart and Linda Noble, who share their journey and collaborative work in the world of sexual education and theology of the body.
They tell about their work with the Identity Project, aiming to help parents and families chat about sexuality and relationships in a faith-filled, positive way. The Lindas talk about their own lightbulb moments at the Theology of the Body Institute and how they're now passionate about giving parents the tools to paint a beautiful picture of God's design for their kids.
They're all about tackling the big questions and easing those parent jitters with resources like their books and workbooks. It's all about building trust, having heart-to-hearts, and guiding the little ones through life's big topics.
Learn more about the Lindas and their work at IdentityProject.tv and TheConversationWorkshop.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Collaboration of Linda Stewart and Linda Noble in sexual education and theology of the body
- The Linda's Involvement in the Identity Project
- Approach to educating parents and families about sexuality and relationships
- Initial reluctance to discuss sexuality and the journey to embracing the theology of the body
- Theology of the body as a comprehensive view of sexuality and Christian sexual ethic
- Importance of understanding God's design for sex in addressing sexual brokenness
- The role of parents in teaching children about God's love and their design
- Addressing the fears and anxieties of parents in discussing sexuality with children
- Providing support and resources for parents to navigate sexuality and relationships with their children
More Resources:
- Before the Sex Talk* by The Lindas
- Honest Talk* by John Fort
- Our Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher West
Related Podcasts:
- God's Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality
- Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and Sexuality
- Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World
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Wednesday Apr 24, 2024
Wednesday Apr 24, 2024
Today’s podcast covers a LOT of territory, including the complexities of masturbation, its connection to our emotional health, and the differences between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset when it comes to living in victory over sexual sin.
Our guest today is Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries. In our conversation, we explore the significant role emotional well-being plays in navigating sexual brokenness. We emphasize the importance of understanding our emotions to discover genuine happiness and connection. We also explore the intriguing concept of scarcity versus abundance in the context of our sexuality. Matt's perspective on how a scarcity mindset can lead to feelings of isolation is eye-opening, and he highlights how adopting an attitude of gratitude can help us perceive our lives more abundantly.
To cap off the conversation, we point listeners to some valuable resources provided by Restored Ministries, including the Pure Freedom Community and the Pure Victory Podcast, which offer support to those on this path.
To learn more about Matt and his ministry, visit RestoredMinistries.ca.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Masturbation and its prevalence among men
- Emotional health and its impact on sexual brokenness
- Scarcity versus abundance mindset in the context of sexual brokenness
- The significance of identifying and acknowledging emotions
- Transformative experiences of individuals in recognizing and expressing emotions
- Detrimental effects of living in a scarcity mindset
- Encouragement to shift towards gratitude and thankfulness
- Resources available through Restored Ministries for support and guidance
- Importance of emotional health in the journey towards healing and wholeness
More Resources:
Related Podcasts:
- Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity
- When Shame Gets Real (with Carl Thomas)
- Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?
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