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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.
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Sep 24, 2025
Sep 24, 2025
38 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, I welcome back Tammy Gustafson, a licensed counselor and betrayal trauma coach, to explore two really tough situations wives face after sexual betrayal: the “roommate scenario,” where the husband isn’t working on recovery, and “incomplete recovery,” where progress is inconsistent.
Tammy shares heartfelt advice on setting boundaries, focusing on self-care, and shifting attention from the husband’s actions to the wife’s own healing. We discuss the importance of deep character change, not just behavior, and offer practical steps for finding support and reclaiming joy.
If you can resonate with either (or both) of these scenarios, we want you to know that healing and thriving are possible, even in the midst of these challenging recovery circumstances.
To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Discussion of the "roommate scenario" where a wife remains in a marriage despite her husband's lack of commitment to recovery.
- Emotional challenges faced by wives in limbo due to financial dependence, children, or personal beliefs against divorce.
- Importance of establishing healthy boundaries and focusing on self-care for emotional well-being.
- The concept of "incomplete recovery," where the husband shows some effort but remains inconsistent, causing confusion and pain for the wife.
- The emotional toll of navigating uncertainty and mixed signals in the recovery process.
- Distinction between sobriety and deeper character transformation necessary for true healing.
- Encouragement for wives to set high expectations for their husband's recovery, looking for genuine changes in behavior and character.
- The role of curiosity and new language from husbands as indicators of real progress in recovery.
- Practical advice for wives on maintaining clarity, protecting their hearts, and seeking support from safe individuals.
- Resources and support available for women dealing with betrayal and navigating their healing journey.
More Resources:
- Betrayal Healing Coaching with Tammy
- Wives Care Groups for Betrayal Trauma Healing
- Basics Webinar for Wives
Related Podcasts:
- The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma Healing
- Identifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed Wife
- The Recovery Process for Couples
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Sep 17, 2025
Sep 17, 2025
35 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In today’s episode, we welcome back Karla Downing for an insightful conversation about healing relationships. Together, we dive into practical ways couples can improve communication, rebuild intimacy, and navigate challenges like addiction and dysfunctional patterns.
Karla shares wisdom on speaking the truth in love, managing emotions, and fostering empathy and curiosity. We discuss the importance of patience, seeking outside support, and grounding our efforts in grace and compassion. Whether you’re facing tough seasons or just want to grow closer, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and actionable steps for building a healthier, more connected relationship.
To learn more about Karla and her resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Practical advice for couples facing relational struggles
- Importance of communication in building intimacy
- Managing emotions and maintaining patience during healing
- Speaking the truth in love and expressing personal truths
- Challenges such as defensiveness and reactivity in communication
- Role of mutual curiosity and understanding between partners
- Emotional maturity and its impact on relationship dynamics
- Strategies for effective communication and conflict resolution
- The significance of seeking outside help and support
- The process of healing and restoration in relationships affected by addiction and dysfunction
More Resources:
- Nine Keys to Successful Marital Conflict Resolution
- When Love Hurts: 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships
- Speaking the Truth in Love
Related Podcasts:
- Eight Practical Steps of Forgiveness
- Intimacy in Marriage: Why Being Fully Known and Loved Matters
- Working Through Emotional Disconnection in Marriage
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Sep 10, 2025
Sep 10, 2025
33 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, Dr. Steven Cervantes and I explore the lifelong mission of personal growth, blending both spiritual and emotional development. We discuss how a vibrant relationship with God brings peace, rest, and joy, and why emotional health is just as vital as spiritual growth.
Together, we unpack the impact of childhood wounds, the roles we play to cope, and the importance of self-care. Our conversation is honest and encouraging, inviting you to embrace growth as a lifelong journey marked by grace, healing, and authentic connection with God and others.
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Exploration of the concept of "mission" in personal growth, integrating spiritual and emotional development.
- Importance of a relational connection with God over rigid religious structures.
- Challenges of maintaining spiritual and emotional health and their interconnectedness.
- The impact of loneliness in modern society and the role of faith communities in fostering connection.
- Definition of a spiritual mission rooted in faith, teachings of Jesus, and community participation.
- Recognition of emotional struggles that can undermine spiritual commitments.
- The idea of a "growth mission" as a continuous journey rather than a fixed goal.
- Discussion of emotional wounds from childhood and their impact on present life.
- Examination of coping mechanisms and roles that may hinder genuine emotional growth.
- Emphasis on the importance of self-love and care as foundational to loving others and spiritual growth.
More Resources:
- 49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional Skills* by Dr. Stephen Cervantes
- Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive Workshop
- Grace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups
Related Podcasts:
- What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?
- Why Must I Learn Me?
- Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test
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Sep 3, 2025
Sep 3, 2025
35 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, I sit down with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed therapist and author, to talk about her book Body and Soul, Healed and Whole. Tabitha shares her personal journey as a survivor and her passion for helping others heal from trauma, abuse, and coercive control.
We explore the impact of purity culture, misconceptions about abuse, and the importance of safety and healthy boundaries. Tabitha offers practical wisdom for individuals and churches, encouraging honest conversations and compassionate support for survivors seeking healing and wholeness.
To learn more about Tabitha, her counseling resources, and book, visit TabithaWestbrook.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Exploration of healthy sexuality after trauma and abuse
- Personal experiences of survivors and their healing journeys
- Discussion of complex trauma, domestic abuse, and coercive control
- Impact of purity culture on men and women within the church
- Nuances of female sexual brokenness and addiction
- Definition and implications of coercive control in relationships
- Misconceptions about abuse and the ineffectiveness of common responses
- Importance of prioritizing victim safety over preserving marriages
- Need for church education and accountability programs for abusers
- Emphasis on holistic healing that integrates body and soul in recovery processes
More Resources:
- Body & Soul, Healed & Whole* by Tabitha Westbrook
- Wives Care Online Groups
- Strong Like Water* by Aundi Kolber
Related Podcasts:
- Help and Hope for Women to Heal from Sexual Abuse
- The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma Healing
- The Need for Boundaries After Betrayal
*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.
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Aug 27, 2025
Aug 27, 2025
38 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, I sit down with Sam Black, Director of Recovery Education at CovenantEyes, to explore the journey of online accountability and recovery from pornography. Sam shares how Covenant Eyes has evolved over 25 years, shifting from simple filtering to a relational, ally-based approach.
We then dive into CovenantEyes’ Victory app and its features, including emotional check-ins, family management, and supportive courses for men, women, and parents. Sam also announces a special book giveaway and encourages listeners to take the next step toward freedom with these practical, faith-based resources.
To get access to all of CovenantEyes’ resources, visit CovenantEyes.com. (And use code bebroken to try out their services free for 30 days.)
FREE BOOK GIVEAWAY!
Sam agree to give away 10 FREE copies of his book, The Healing Church. To get your free copy, send an email to psr@bebroken.org and put "FREE Healing Church Book" in the subject line. First 10 respondents will get a free copy.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- History and mission of Covenant Eyes, focusing on relational accountability.
- Evolution of terminology from "accountability" to "ally" to foster supportive relationships.
- Development and features of the Victory app as a companion tool for recovery.
- Importance of educational resources and community support in overcoming pornography addiction.
- Challenges faced in app development, including technological and platform guidelines.
- Overview of the app's functionality, including accountability reports and communication features.
- Accessibility of the Victory app for both men and women, addressing diverse needs.
- Introduction of new features like the check-in process for emotional monitoring and progress tracking.
- Emphasis on viewing relapses as learning opportunities rather than failures.
- Availability of additional resources, such as the Strive 21 program and the book The Healing Church.
More Resources:
Related Podcasts:
- Porn, Technology, and Self-Control
- How Group Work Will Transform Your Recovery Journey
- Beyond the Porn Phenomenon: Barna Group Research on Porn Use
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Aug 20, 2025
Aug 20, 2025
37 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, we welcome back Lyschel Burket, Executive Director of Hope Redefined, a ministry for wives facing sexual betrayal trauma. Lyschel shares updates about her work, including a new 45-week healing curriculum, and then we dive deep into the complexities of betrayal trauma, misplaced hope, and the journey toward true healing.
Lyschel offers wisdom from her own story, emphasizing the importance of finding safety, authentic community, and hope in Christ—not just in a spouse’s recovery. It’s an insightful, practical conversation for anyone seeking restoration after deep relational wounds.
To learn more about Lyschel and her ministry resources, visit HopeRedefined.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Discussion of sexual betrayal trauma and its impact on wives and women.
- Introduction of the "Abiding in Hope" curriculum aimed at supporting healing in community.
- Definition and exploration of betrayal trauma, particularly in the context of marriage.
- Examination of the complexities of trust and the challenges faced in the healing process.
- Analysis of misplaced hope in husbands' recovery and the implications for personal healing.
- Identification of common coping mechanisms and responses to betrayal trauma.
- Emphasis on the importance of establishing safety and stabilization as foundational for healing.
- Insights on the role of community in the healing journey and the need for authenticity.
- Practical steps for women to rebuild their relationship with God and redefine hope.
- Encouragement for women to embrace their healing journey and recognize progress over time.
More Resources:
Related Podcasts:
- Hope After Betrayal
- Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope
- The Need for Boundaries After Betrayal
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Aug 13, 2025
Aug 13, 2025
34 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes joins me in our brand-new studio to discuss how couples get stuck in emotional cycles of conflict, drawing on Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy. We explore how triggers, core fears, and attachment styles—like the classic pursuer and withdrawer dynamic—shape our reactions and create distance in marriage.
Together, we talk about the importance of self-awareness, grace, and integrating emotional and spiritual growth to break these patterns and build deeper connections. We also highlight the 5 stages that happen in conflict, which are:
- Trigger
- Body symptom
- Emotional response
- Belief response
- Action
This is an insightful, practical conversation for anyone wanting healthier, more loving relationships.
For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Discussion of relationship conflict and emotional loops based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
- Exploration of emotional responses and core fears that contribute to conflict in marriages.
- Explanation of the cycle of triggering events, body responses, emotional reactions, beliefs, and final actions in relationships.
- The impact of attachment theory on adult relationships and the dynamics of pursuer and withdrawer roles.
- Importance of self-awareness and understanding personal emotional patterns to break cycles of conflict.
- The connection between emotional understanding and spiritual growth, emphasizing grace in relationships.
- Encouragement for couples to create new patterns of connection and support each other.
- Closing thoughts on the significance of building a strong, loving attachment in relationships.
More Resources:
- Hold Me Tight* by Dr. Sue Johnson
- Find a Counselor
- Understanding Emotionally Focused Therapy
Related Podcasts:
- Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from Betrayal
- The Harms of Negative Talking
- Assumptions vs. Communication: The Battle for Relational Harmony
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Aug 6, 2025
Aug 6, 2025
35 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, I welcome my friend and colleague, Dr. Stephen Cervantes, to our cozy new “barn office” studio for a real and raw conversation about breaking old, harmful habits—especially those rooted in childhood. Together, we explore how these habits form as coping mechanisms, the emotional battles involved in letting them go, and the importance of kindness toward our younger selves.
We discuss faith, the power of emotional connection, and practical steps for real change. Our desire is to help men grow in integrity and relationships. So, we invite you to join us as we encourage each other to pursue healthier, more loving ways of living.
For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Discussion of old and potentially harmful habits developed from childhood experiences.
- Exploration of habits as coping mechanisms for emotional and relational challenges.
- The emotional impact of habits on personal growth and relationships.
- The importance of self-compassion and kindness towards one's younger self.
- The struggle involved in breaking free from ingrained habits.
- The role of fear and survival in the formation of bad habits.
- The necessity of replacing bad habits with healthier alternatives.
- The significance of emotional connection and reciprocity in relationships.
- The influence of community and shared experiences in overcoming bad habits.
- Resources for personal growth and emotional development, particularly for men.
More Resources:
- Men's Integrity Webinar (free)
- Critical Conversations online course (free)
- 40 Days of Purity for Men
Related Podcasts:
- Breaking Free from Your Secret Habit
- Replacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts and Behaviors
- Breaking Free with Russell Willingham
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Jul 30, 2025
Jul 30, 2025
43 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In today’s episode, I chat with Trevor Hanson, a coach and founder of The Art of Healing. He teaches relationship and attachment skills through the Secure Self Club. Trevor opens up about his personal journey, sharing how his own struggles inspired his work.
We discuss the origins and fluidity of attachment styles, practical steps to move from anxious to secure attachment, and the importance of self-compassion in healing. Trevor introduces his TEMPO framework and offers resources to help you take your next step toward secure attachments. I found it to be an insightful, encouraging conversation for anyone wanting to better understand themselves and build healthier relationships.
To learn more about Trevor and his resources, visit TheArtofHealingbyTrevor.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Personal journey of Trevor with anxious attachment
- Influence of attachment styles on relationships
- Overview of different attachment styles and their origins
- Importance of understanding attachment dynamics in personal development
- Fluidity of attachment styles and the potential for change
- Signs and symptoms of anxious attachment
- The cycle of anxious attachment and its impact on behavior
- Strategies for moving from anxious to secure attachment
- The role of emotional experiences in healing attachment issues
- Resources and support for individuals seeking to address attachment-related challenges
More Resources:
- From Anxious to Secure (free seminar)
- Sex and Anxiety (online course)
- Know Your Boundaries (free workshop)
Related Podcasts:
- Understanding Your "Flipped Out" Brain
- Moving from Being Fear-Driven to Love-Driven
- How Early Development Trauma Shapes Addiction and Recovery
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Jul 23, 2025
Jul 23, 2025
39 min
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, we have back with us on the program Dr. Eddie Capparucci, counselor and co-author of Going Deeper for the Betrayed Partner.* Our topic of conversation is to explore the journey of healing from betrayal trauma, especially for women who have experienced infidelity.
Dr. Eddie shares his unique inner child model, helping us understand how past wounds shape our emotional responses today. Together, we discuss practical tools for managing difficult feelings, the importance of self-compassion, and how both partners can support each other on the path to recovery. It’s an honest, hopeful conversation about reclaiming your sense of self and finding healing after deep hurt.
For more information about Dr. Eddie and his resources, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com or search for “Going Deeper books” on Amazon.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Definition and significance of betrayal trauma, particularly in marital relationships.
- The emotional impact of infidelity on individuals, especially women.
- Introduction and explanation of the inner child model as a therapeutic approach.
- The connection between unresolved childhood wounds and adult emotional responses.
- Differentiation between sexual betrayal and other forms of betrayal (e.g., financial, emotional).
- The importance of recognizing and nurturing the inner child for healing.
- Strategies for managing emotions and shifting from emotional responses to rational thinking.
- Addressing common objections and validating emotions while assessing their accuracy.
- Encouragement for both partners in a relationship affected by betrayal to support each other.
- Resources and tools for further exploration of betrayal trauma and inner child work.
More Resources:
- Going Deeper for the Betrayed Partner*
- Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction*
- Wives Care Online Groups
Related Podcasts:
- Emotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed Wives
- Betrayal Trauma Healing (PSR Podcast Bundle)
- Helping a Wife Heal
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