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A Youth Pastor’s Conversation on Identity

Parenting can feel overwhelming in the best of circumstances. But in today’s world which is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness, it can seem impossible, especially when it comes to the issue of identity. 

In today’s episode, our guest is Jordan Young. He is a student ministry pastor at Table Community Church in Hillsboro, Oregon near Portland. He has decades of experience in working with students and the various challenges they face in the culture. 

Our conversation focuses on identity and the confusion many students are experiencing and how the gospel of Jesus addresses this with grace and truth. Jordan and their students read through our Identity book over 6 weeks and it made a huge impact on helping the students better understand what identity means and how we all live from a sense of identity, whether true or false – and why identity in Christ is the only source of eternal hope and peace.

You can get your copy of the Identity book by John Fort at Amazon* or our ministry resource page at Bebroken.org/store.

More Resources:

• 7 Tips to Help You Address Sexual Issues with Your Kids
• Honest Talk book*
• Online Courses for Families

Related Podcasts:

• Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)
• God Made Boys and Girls
• How Identity Shapes Everything

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The Journey to Stay (with Steve and Lisa Goldberg)

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We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.

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Infidelity is devastating. For couples who have experienced this deep betrayal of trust, it can be hard to imagine that restoration is possible – and even more difficult to think that they could rebuild their marriage into something better than they ever had before. But this is the story of Steve and Lisa Goldberg’s marriage and ministry.

Steve and Lisa are the founders of Side by Side, a ministry to help couples navigate the “unexpected crash” of betrayal and how to restore and rebuild their marriage. 

In today’s episode, Steve and Lisa share their own story of brokenness and healing and the key elements of restoration in their new book entitled The Journey to Stay. They offer a practical message of hope to couples facing the overwhelming difficulty of unfaithfulness. 

To learn more about Steve and Lisa and their ministry, visit StaySidebySide.org.

More Resources:

• The Journey to Stay
• The Journey to Stay Guide (free download)
• Building True Intimacy* by Drake & Raabsmith

Related Podcasts:

• Navigating the Revelation of an Affair (Steve & Lisa)
• Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from Betrayal
• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal

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Going Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction

Everyone listening to this podcast right now was once a child. Childhood is unavoidable on the journey to adulthood. But none of us got through our childhoods unscathed. And some of the residue of that continues to affect us now as adults.

Today we have back with us Dr. Eddie Capparucci to talk about his inner child therapy model and a new resource he has co-authored for women who struggle with love and sex addiction. Eddie’s model is based on the premise that we all have core emotional triggers that impact our inner child based on past wounds, and in order for us to heal and mature we must address these triggers by understanding our inner child and not simply ignoring our past.

In our conversation, Eddie defines the inner child model and highlights the 10 specific “inner children” for women to understand in order to heal and recover from love and sex addiction. 

To learn more about Eddie and the inner child model, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com.

More Resources:

• The Inner Child Recovery Process
• SheRecovery.com*
• 90 Days to Wholeness*
• The Myth of Normal* by Gabor Mate

Related Podcasts:

• God's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame
• The Immanuel Approach in Recovery
• Total Freedom for Women Struggling with Porn

 

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Better Screen Time for You and Your Family

Screens are everywhere and, while they are not bad or wrong as a tool, the way we engage them and what we allow on them can be negative. So, how can we build better screen time for ourselves and our families? 

Our guest today is Andrea Davis, the founder and CEO of Better Screen Time, which provides strategies and resources for families to think through how to engage technology and screens for better health and balance in life and relationships. 

Andrea shares her own story as a parent of 5 kids and some of the challenges and victories they have experienced in working out these strategies in their family. She also shares why cell phone contracts rarely work and better strategies for creating a family tech plan to learn personal responsibility with technology. 

To learn more about Andrea and the resources she provides, visit BetterScreenTime.com.

More Resources:

• Better Screen Time Resources
• Online Courses for Families
• Honest Talk -- The Game

Related Podcasts:

• Brain Defense Digital Safety for Kids
• Helping Parents Teach Healthy Tech to Kids
• Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World

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Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and Emotion

Men, I’m really excited to bring you today’s program because Stephen and I are going to provide you with some VERY practical help for understanding how to navigate between logic and emotions – and why engaging emotions is essential for maturity. 

Generally, the majority of men we work with in our ministry are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage. 

Today, Stephen and I will share with you a story of one man’s journey to get unstuck when it comes to sharing his emotions and the 2-channel system he developed to help with that process. We are hopeful that this conversation will enlighten you and give you the confidence to work on becoming more skilled in emotional sharing and listening.

More Resources:

• 49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes
• 40 Days of Training for Your Soul
• The 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen Cervantes

Related Podcasts:

• Why Don't I Connect Better?
• 15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men
• Guy Thoughts on Emotional Awareness and Maturity

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Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal Trauma

For over 10 years we have helped wives heal from sexual betrayal trauma. One aspect of this healing process that simply should not be overlooked is the need for self-care and simply rest. 

Today’s guest is Christy Jones Jackson. She is the founder and director of The Guest House Project, a non-profit ministry that helps women find hope after betrayal. Christy shares some of her own story and how vital it was that in the middle of her failing marriage due to betrayal a friend took her away for a weekend to pray with her, make her eat, give her gifts, read her Scripture, made her laugh, and reminded her who she was. It was a pivotal moment in her journey to healing and planted the seeds for what would eventually become The Guest House Project.

To learn more about Christy and The Guest House Project, visit TheGuestHouseProject.com.

More Resources:

• Winter Respite Retreat Feb 22-25
• Wives Care Online Groups
• Blog: Loving Our Bodies After Trauma

Related Podcasts:

• Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope
• Healing, One Brushstroke at a Time
• Embracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal

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Brothers Helping Brothers to Finish Well

Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This idea of helping each other get sharper is so common in our work with men, especially in our Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshops. Guys form a bond that is deep and meaningful.

In this episode, Stephen and I talk about what can men hope to be saying 6-12 months after they have begun their honest journey toward greater integrity. These insights are coming directly from other men who have traveled this journey and what they discovered on the way. The hope is that these men can help other men to press on and finish well.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop
• 10 Lessons for Overcoming Addiction (free download)
• 40 Days of Growth*

Related Podcasts:

• Men Helping Men Grow and Mature
• Insights from a Brother in Recovery
• For Men Who Want to Finish Strong

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How to Be at Peace in Aloneness

What is the difference between alone and lonely? Is there a healthy aspect to being alone and understanding who you are by yourself?

In today’s episode, Stephen and I dialogue about the topic of aloneness and why we need to be okay with ourselves – by ourselves. We also talk about the difference between aloneness as a healthy thing and isolation as an unhealthy thing. 

We explore some questions that help us better understand how to embrace aloneness, such as: 

• What scares you most about being alone? 
• What does it feel like in your body when you are alone?
• What could you do that would be healthy when you are alone?

 

It’s okay to be by yourself. We hope this episode helps you navigate this topic with confidence and hope.

More Resources:

• Abba's Child by Brennan Manning
• Identity by John Fort
• Grace-Based Transformation

Related Podcasts:

• I Love God (Until it Gets Dark)
• Understanding Aloneness
• Silencing Your Inner Critic

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Addressing Childhood Trauma in Men

Childhood sexual abuse is not something that only happens to girls. Boys are victims, too. Most of these boys grow up to be men who find it terribly difficult to talk about these experiences. 

In today’s episode, our guest is Dr. James Reeves, founding pastor of City on a Hill Church in Fort Worth, Texas, and the creator of the Fearless Series for women and men. Dr. Reeves shares how he got involved in helping abuse victims and why the church needs to be a safe place for such victims to heal and belong.

The Fearless Series for Men addresses childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse men have experienced and the hope possible for not just surviving trauma but finding true healing and fulfillment through the gospel of Jesus Christ.

To learn more about Dr. Reeves and the Fearless series, visit FearlessResources.org.

More Resources:

• Facilitator Training for Fearless Series
• Refuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church Forever
• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men

Related Podcasts:

• Our Born Identity (with Randy & Cynthia Lail)
• Breaking Free with Russell Willingham
• Becoming a Healing Church

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Church Ambassador Network (with Daniel Degner)

Today’s episode may be the most unique program we’ve ever done on our podcast. We are diving into the space of politics and government, and how Christians can engage their local and state elected officials in gospel-centered ways.

Our guest is Daniel Degner. He is the director of the Church Ambassador Network for the Wisconsin Family Council. He is going to help us understand the fallacy of “separation of Church and State” and how we can do amazing ministry at the intersection of our Christian faith and government. This conversation is critical as we look forward to elections in 2024, not to promote a specific political party, but instead to educate and inspire you on how to build relationships with elected officials for the sake of the gospel and the good of your community. It makes a difference that your local government officials know who you are and what you believe about God’s design for sex and life.

If you would like more info about Daniel and how to get involved in the Church Ambassador Network, visit WIFamilyCouncil.org .

Or reach out to Daniel directly at ddegner@wifamilycouncil.org or (920) 204-4447 (he welcomes texts!).

More Resources:

• The Good Citizen by Josh Hershberger
• The Daniel Impact

Related Podcasts:

• The Shepherd King podcast
• Can the Church be a Safe Place for Healing and Restoration?

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