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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.
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2 hours ago
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Carol Tanksley to explore the true meaning of intimacy—beyond just sexuality. Dr. Carol shares updates about her ministry’s amazing new space for healing and intensives, called Transformation Place.
In our conversation, we discuss the universal need for connection with God and others. Dr. Carol offers practical steps for building deeper relationships, overcoming fear and shame, and embracing vulnerability.
We also highlight several resources for anyone seeking healing from sexual brokenness.
To check out some of these resources from Carol, visit DrCarolMinistries.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Exploration of the significance of intimacy in human relationships.
- Discussion on the connection between intimacy, sexuality, and sexual brokenness.
- Updates on Dr. Tankersley's ministry and the establishment of a new physical space for events.
- Definition of intimacy as "seeing and being seen, knowing and being known."
- Importance of relational intimacy beyond sexual intimacy.
- Identification of common obstacles to experiencing true intimacy, such as shame and emotional walls.
- Practical steps for cultivating intimacy with God and others.
- Emphasis on the value of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships.
- Discussion of non-sexual aspects of intimacy, including sensory experiences and physical touch.
- Resources and tools for further support in the journey toward intimacy and healing.
More Resources:
- A 5-Step Prescription for Sexual Healing - God's Way
- Online Sexpectations Course
- In-Person Small Group Intensives
Related Podcasts:
- Exploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol Tanksley
- What Are Your Sexpectations?
- What is Oneness and Why Does It Matter in Your Life?
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6 days ago
6 days ago
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In this episode, I sit down with Nick Stumbo, director of Pure Desire Ministries, for an honest conversation about sexual brokenness and the impact of pornography, especially within the Christian community. We dive into new research from Pure Desire and the Barna Group, titled Beyond the Porn Phenomenon, revealing surprising trends and the ongoing struggle many face in silence.
Nick shares insights from the research on breaking shame, creating safe spaces in churches, and practical ways parents and leaders can support healthy conversations about sexuality. Together, we explore how compassion and openness can lead to real healing and hope.
To learn more and get a copy of the research mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org/barna.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Discussion of sexual brokenness, particularly related to pornography use.
- Personal experiences of a pastor struggling with pornography.
- Overview of the research project "Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" conducted with the Barna Group.
- Examination of updated data on pornography use and its effects on individuals and relationships.
- Challenges faced by churches in addressing sexual brokenness and providing support.
- Development of resources for parents and youth leaders to discuss sexuality with teenagers.
- Insights into the disconnect between spiritual health and sexual behavior among Christians.
- Statistics highlighting the prevalence of pornography use and the lack of support for individuals struggling with it.
- The importance of creating safe spaces in churches for open discussions about sexual issues.
- Encouragement for proactive engagement in conversations about sexuality and support for those in need.
More Resources:
- Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Church Toolkit
- Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom from Porn
- Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
Related Podcasts:
- New Research on Why Women View Porn
- What Can We Learn from Lust?
- Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused Culture
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Wednesday Jun 18, 2025
Wednesday Jun 18, 2025
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, I sit down again with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell to explore what true intimacy in marriage really means. Together, we unpack how family backgrounds, vulnerability, and faith shape our ability to be fully known and fully loved.
Phil and Priscilla share their honest journey through their marriage struggles, healing, and the importance of spiritual and emotional connection—not just physical closeness.
We also touch on how intimacy matters for everyone, married or single. Join us for an honest, heartfelt conversation about growing closer, supporting each other, and finding wholeness in our relationships.
To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their resources for couples, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- The significance of intimacy in marriage and relationships.
- The evolution of understanding intimacy from a religious to a spiritual perspective.
- Misconceptions surrounding intimacy, particularly the equating of intimacy with sexual activity.
- The influence of family backgrounds on perceptions of intimacy.
- The impact of secrets and emotional barriers on relationships.
- The journey of recovery and healing in the context of intimacy.
- The role of vulnerability in fostering deeper connections.
- The purpose of intimacy in modeling love and support within families.
- The relevance of intimacy for singles and its application beyond marriage.
- Resources for further exploration of intimacy and relationship dynamics.
More Resources:
- Savage Marriage* by Phil & Priscilla Fretwell
- Savage Marriage Study Guide by Phil & Priscilla Fretwell
- Coaching with Phil & Priscilla
Related Podcasts:
- A Journey of Redemption and Healing
- The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight
- God, Sex, and Your Marriage
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Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
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In today’s episode, I welcome back Garry Ingraham from Love and Truth Network to discuss the challenges of parenting in a hypersexualized culture. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy, godly behaviors and values, and how parents can create a nurturing environment for their children.
Garry shares insights from his ministry, emphasizing the need for open communication and proactive measures in addressing identity and sexuality issues. We also explore the biblical perspective on parenting, encouraging parents to embrace their role with faith and hope, fostering a supportive environment for their children's growth and identity development.
To learn about the resources Garry offers, visit LoveAndTruthNetwork.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Challenges parents face in a hypersexualized culture
- Importance of parental roles in shaping children's identities
- Biblical perspective on parenting and its significance
- Creating a positive family culture and environment
- Navigating identity issues in children
- Open communication between parents and children
- Addressing topics like pornography and sexuality with children
- The role of personal accountability and growth for parents
- Encouragement for overwhelmed parents
- Resources and support for parents from organizations like Love and Truth Network
More Resources:
- Love and Truth Network Summits
- Six Critical Conversations to Have With Your Kids
- God's Design for Sex Series* by Stan and Brenna Jones
Related Podcasts:
- PSR Podcast Bundle for Families on Identity
- Navigating Identity and Sexuality: A Compassionate Approach for Parents
- How Parents Can Leverage their Story of Brokenness to Help Their Kids Pursue Integrity
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Friday Jun 06, 2025
Friday Jun 06, 2025
In this episode, I sit down with Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean, to discuss his journey from porn addiction to freedom and personal growth. Sathiya shares how he struggled with ineffective solutions and the shame tied to his addiction. Over time, he realized true recovery meant focusing on personal and spiritual development rather than just quitting porn.
We explore the connection between physical well-being and mental health, emphasizing how activities like exercise and journaling can aid recovery. Sathiya also highlights the importance of understanding one's identity and purpose, offering practical steps for overcoming shame and fostering a healthier lifestyle. Join us for a powerful and inspiring conversation on whole-man healing.
For more information on Sathiya and his resources, visit DeepCleanCoaching.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Personal journey of recovery from pornography addiction
- Ineffective solutions encountered during the recovery process
- Shift in focus from eliminating pornography to personal growth and spiritual development
- Connection between recovery, physical well-being, and mental health
- Importance of identity and purpose in the recovery journey
- The impact of physical activities on emotional states and lifestyle choices
- Neurochemical aspects of recovery and the concept of "red zone" vs. "green zone"
- Overcoming shame associated with body image and sexuality
- Practical steps for fostering a healthy relationship with one's body
- The significance of valuing one's body for enhancing relationships and personal fulfillment
More Resources:
- Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
- Grace-Based Recovery Online Groups
- The Last Relapse* by Sathiya Sam
Related Podcasts:
- The Last Relapse with Sathiya Sam
- Helping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit
- Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors
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Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
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In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the crucial topic of expectations in marriage, focusing on the difference between assumed and discussed expectations. We share lots of personal stories and insights, highlighting how unspoken assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.
Our conversation focuses on the importance of open communication and dialogue to foster a healthier relationship. I reflect on my own marriage, illustrating how discussing expectations can transform a relationship from merely coexisting to truly sharing life. We encourage you, if you’re married, to engage in meaningful discussions about expectations to avoid the pitfalls of unspoken assumptions.
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- The distinction between assumed expectations and discussed expectations in marriage.
- The impact of unspoken assumptions on misunderstandings and conflicts in relationships.
- The importance of open communication and dialogue in addressing expectations.
- Personal anecdotes illustrating the challenges of navigating expectations in marriage.
- The influence of family backgrounds on partners' expectations and roles.
- The collaborative process of navigating expectations as a couple.
- The necessity of ongoing discussions about expectations as relationships evolve.
- The role of awareness and perception in understanding each other's viewpoints.
- Strategies for initiating meaningful discussions about expectations in marriage.
- The overall message that couples are better together through intentional communication and collaboration.
More Resources:
- The Deep-Rooted Marriage* by Dan Allender and Steve Call
- Renewing Us Couples Retreat
- Find a Counselor or Coach
Related Podcasts:
- Breaking Down Barriers: The Art of Active Listening
- The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight
- 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage
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Wednesday May 28, 2025
Wednesday May 28, 2025
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, we invite back one of our favorite counselors, Jessica McDaniel, who runs a private practice in Austin, TX with her husband, Ryan. We dive into the crucial collaboration between therapists and pastors, especially when helping couples deal with infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Jessica shares how both therapeutic and pastoral support are essential for comprehensive healing. We discuss the importance of creating safe environments, clear communication, and breaking down the stigma around mental health in church settings. Jessica also offers practical advice for building strong, collaborative relationships between therapists and church leaders to better support couples in crisis.
To learn more about Jessica and Ryan’s counseling practice, visit McDanielCounseling.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Collaboration between therapists and pastors in addressing infidelity and betrayal trauma.
- The importance of integrating therapeutic and pastoral support for couples.
- Challenges individuals face in choosing between confiding in a pastor or a therapist.
- The divide between "church life" and therapeutic needs, and its impact on seeking help.
- Creating a safe environment for individuals to discuss sensitive issues with church leaders.
- The necessity of dual support from both therapists and pastors for couples in crisis.
- Addressing misconceptions and biases between therapists and pastors.
- The role of communication and regular updates in collaborative support.
- The stigma surrounding mental health issues in church settings and the need for normalization.
- Encouraging proactive relationship-building between therapists and church leaders for better support networks.
More Resources:
Related Podcasts:
- Becoming a Healing Church
- Talking About Taboo (with Mike Novotny)
- Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?
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Wednesday May 21, 2025
Wednesday May 21, 2025
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the emotional and spiritual awakening journey for men. We explore the challenges of emotional disconnect and the impact of societal expectations on men's emotional health.
Stephen shares insights on moving from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life in Christ. We emphasize the importance of expressing needs and feelings, and the courage it takes to wake up emotionally.
We share our own personal stories and practical advice in hopes to inspire men to connect more deeply with their emotions and relationships. Men, we invite you to join us on the journey of emotional and spiritual growth.
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Emotional and spiritual awakening for men
- The journey from emotional disconnect to deeper engagement
- Coping mechanisms and their impact on emotional health
- The significance of expressing needs and feelings
- Societal expectations and their influence on men's emotional well-being
- The transition from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life
- The challenges men face in recognizing and articulating their emotions
- The role of relationships in emotional growth and healing
- The dangers of living in isolation and avoiding vulnerability
- Encouragement for men to embrace their emotions and seek deeper connections
More Resources:
- Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
- Grace-Based Recovery Online Groups for Men
- 40 Days of Training for Your Soul
Related Podcasts:
- The Moment of Awakening
- Helping Men Practice Self-Awareness to Build Stronger Relationships
- Mr. Unemotional: Moving from Isolation to Connection
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Wednesday May 14, 2025
Wednesday May 14, 2025
In this episode, I chat with Hadley Baker, who courageously shares his journey through sexual addiction and its impact on his life as a pastor. Hadley opens up about his childhood trauma as the result of an unwanted pregnancy, believing he was unlovable. Then came the early onset of his addiction to pornography and the eventual internal conflict of living a double life while in ministry.
He recounts pivotal moments, such as his spiritual awakening, the challenges in his marriage, and his path to healing through counseling and truly understanding God's love.
We also highlight the importance of authenticity and open discussions within the church to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. Hadley’s story is a powerful reminder of the need for grace, hope, and compassion.
To learn more about Hadley and get his book, No Longer a Slave, visit HadleyBaker.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
- Personal journey of sexual addiction and its impact on life as a pastor.
- Importance of discussing sensitive topics like addiction within the church.
- Influence of childhood trauma and family dynamics on self-worth and identity.
- Early exposure to pornography and its role in developing compulsive behaviors.
- Spiritual awakening and commitment to faith as a turning point.
- Struggles with living a double life while in ministry.
- Escalation of addiction and the cycle of shame and secrecy.
- The significance of counseling and understanding God's love in the healing process.
- Transition back into ministry after overcoming addiction and personal struggles.
- Advocacy for creating safe spaces in churches for open discussions about addiction and personal challenges.
More Resources:
- Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
- The Healing Church* by Sam Black
- SheRecovery: Porn Addiction Support for Women
Related Podcasts:
- From Porn Pastor to Pure Desire
- Reframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity
- Addressing Childhood Trauma in Men
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Wednesday May 07, 2025
Wednesday May 07, 2025
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!
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In this episode, we have back on the program our friend and colleague Andrew Arthur, a mediator specializing in faith-based mediation, to talk about the delicate topic of separation in relationships and how to navigate them with hope. We delve specifically into therapeutic separation, which is a process aimed at healing and potentially reuniting couples facing serious challenges like infidelity and sexual brokenness.
Andrew highlights the importance of having a support team, including counselors, mediators, and spiritual advisors, to collectively guide this tough journey for couples. We also discuss the emotional and operational aspects of separation, the need for individual care, and the crucial role of safety and trust in working towards reconciliation. It's a hopeful and insightful conversation for anyone facing relational struggles.
For more information about Andrew and his resources, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.
Topics Covered in the Episode:
- Definition and understanding of therapeutic separation in relationships.
- The role and importance of a support team during separation.
- Common reasons for couples to consider separation, including infidelity and communication breakdown.
- Establishing ground rules and expectations during the separation process.
- Overcoming obstacles to reunification, such as differing parenting styles and conflict patterns.
- The significance of safety and trust in relationships during separation.
- Steps toward reunification and the importance of joint work and assessments.
- The value of commitment to the therapeutic process and early intervention.
- The concept of forgiveness as a personal journey in healing.
- Resources and support available for couples navigating separation and reconciliation.
More Resources:
- Restoration Therapy* by Dr. Terry Hargrave
- DisclosureHope.com
- Find a Counselor
Related Podcasts:
- Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from Betrayal
- The Role of Boundaries in Marriage Restoration
- Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
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