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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.
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Tuesday Dec 14, 2021
Tuesday Dec 14, 2021
My guest today is Karla Downing, the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She is a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible teacher.
Karla grew up in a dysfunctional family and then found herself struggling with Christian codependency in her own difficult marriage. Through her personal struggles, she discovered biblical and practical principles, which she now teaches to others. Karla’s passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from the chains of dysfunction, misunderstanding, and emotional pain through a correct understanding of what the Bible teaches about relationships.
In our conversation, Karla shares the 10 Relationship Changing Principles she uses to help difficult relationships thrive. We spend much of our time focusing on the principle she calls “Detach with Love” to help wives understand how to separate themselves in healthy ways from their betraying husband’s actions and reactions.
To learn more about Karla and her many resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources for Wives: WivesCare.Bebroken.com
Blog: Why Self-Care After Sexual Betrayal is Good Stewardship
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Tuesday Dec 07, 2021
Tuesday Dec 07, 2021
So many stories have come to the surface over recent decades about pastor after pastor who has been living a double life that has hidden all kinds of sexual brokenness and sin. Much pain has been left in the wake of these stories.
In this episode, we read a blog post from Allison Fallon about her personal story of how this kind of betrayal played out in her own life. Then we spend time unpacking some of the key factors that often establish and perpetuate environments of hidden abuse within the church, such as isolation, unchecked and unaccountable power, pride, and even hiding behind one’s “calling.”
We close with giving hope and insights for how true grace-based environments can fight against these kinds of sins and abuses. We hope this episode will help both individuals and leaders to recognize the warning signs of danger and how to fight for truth and genuine grace.
Read Allison's blog post at AllisonFallon.com/grace.
Related blog: The Christian Response to Moral Failure in Church Leaders
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- Freedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse
- Responding to #MeToo
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Tuesday Nov 30, 2021
Tuesday Nov 30, 2021
There is one simple starting point for men who want to work on emotional development: practice sadness. This may be overly simple, even simplistic. But after engaging with hundreds of men for over 30 years, counselor Stephen Cervantes has discovered that most men hate dealing with sadness. They don’t know how to practice sadness.
Most men think emotions are messy. They hate when women cry. They think sadness is sloppy, crazy, and unnecessary emotion. Most men are good at positive emotions such as fun, play, laughter, and pleasure. They are not so good at disappointment and sadness.
In this episode, we explore the issue of sadness in men and how men can better practice sadness well. We unpack the impact of fathers in training their sons to avoid or ignore sadness. Finally, we help men see sadness as an asset to growth and maturity rather than a liability.
More resources for men: Men.Bebroken.com
Book: Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith
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- Replacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts and Behaviors
- Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex Addiction
- What Can You Learn from Your Anger?
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Tuesday Nov 23, 2021
Tuesday Nov 23, 2021
My guest today is Linda MacDonald. She is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with over 30 years of counseling experience. She has written numerous books and articles and spoken on a wide range of topics related to marriage restoration. She is a wife, mother, and grandmother who enjoys hiking and kayaking near her home in Gig Harbor, Washington.
Our conversation today centers around her book, entitled How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. We begin by exploring the 5 options that the betraying spouse has in choosing what to do next after the affair. Then, we explore some of the 15 essential steps for repair, including healthy disclosure, rebuilding trust, responding to your spouse’s triggers, and changing your core character. For couples who want to rebuild after an affair, this book helps provide a solid road map for the betraying spouse.
To learn more about Linda and her resources, visit lindajmacdonald.com.
Book: How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair
Blog: Through a Wife's Eyes
More Podcasts on Marriage Restoration:
- Navigating the Revelation of an Affair
- Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure
- A Thank You Letter from a Repentant Husband
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Tuesday Nov 16, 2021
Tuesday Nov 16, 2021
My guests today are Michael and Heather Norgren. They are the founders of Triggered.app. For much of his life, Michael struggled with an addiction that he couldn't seem to overcome. He tried counseling, pastoral support, recovery programs, bible studies, and conferences. In all of these environments, he learned the importance of vulnerability and reaching out for support when he was feeling triggered.
As a wife to a former addict, Heather is now able to use her story of betrayal to help others who are hurting from broken relationships. Throughout her journey, she has learned much about her own individual healing and how to come alongside someone struggling with addiction with healthy boundaries.
Michael uses his abilities of developing software to create tools to help people in their journey to healing. Heather is using her gifts and passions to connect with individuals, businesses, and ministries to find more effective ways to partner together to bring hope and healing to more people. Together, they use their story to bring God glory.
In today’s episode, Michael and Heather will share with us their story so that it might draw others out into the light of truth, grace, and a new life of joy and purpose.
Please check out their amazing one-click app to help you overcome addiction at Triggered.app.
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- How to Fight for Love in Your Marriage
- When and Why Do Men Escape to Porn?
- What Porn Use Does to Your Wife
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Tuesday Nov 09, 2021
Tuesday Nov 09, 2021
In 1999, I began my recovery from over 13 years of porn and sex addiction. One of the first books I read was Russell Willinghams’ foundational work, Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus. To this day I am reaping the benefits of this resource. In fact, the name of our ministry, Be Broken, is due in large part because of chapter 9 in Breaking Free, entitled “The Courage to Be Broken.”
Today’s guest is none other than Russell Willingham. Russell has worked full-time with sexually broken people since 1993. He oversees individual, couples and group counseling at New Creation Ministries in Fresno, California. He has spoken widely across the nation on issues related to sexual addiction, the healing process, marital intimacy and spiritual formation.
In this episode, Russell shares insights from his 30+ years of experience to understand sexual brokenness strongholds and how we can be truly set free from such compulsions. He unpacks the goodness of our desires, the reality of the struggle with sexual temptation, and the practical application of God’s Word in experiencing freedom, peace, hope, and joy that comes from authentic community.
Learn more about Russell and his counseling ministry at NCMFresno.org.
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Tuesday Nov 02, 2021
Tuesday Nov 02, 2021
Can you relate to stress and anxiety in a constantly changing world? Do God’s promises of peace and joy still apply in the world today? How can you find real peace, grace, and Jesus in the midst of the chaos?
My guests on today’s program are Steve and Jamie Wiechman, founders of Breathe Life Ministries. They got married in 1998 and have four children. They have traveled through many peaks and valleys, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They bring answers and insights to the questions around stress and pain from a place of deep personal experience.
Steve began ministry as a youth minister in Houston, TX and has served in pastoral ministry in four different churches in Texas. Jamie, after 10 years in the trenches as a pastor’s wife and home educator, obtained an Advanced Counseling Certificate through the Townsend Institute at Concordia University – Irvine, CA. God has captured their hearts for sharing the freedom of the Gospel with Christian leaders and their families.
Steve currently serves as the Director of Strategy and Operations for Breath Life Ministries. Jamie currently serves as the Director of Ministry and Programs.
Learn more about Steve and Jamie and their ministry at BreatheLifeToday.com.
Helpful Book: Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith
Blog: The Missing Connection to Healing
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- Working Through Marriage Challenges
- Growing a Stronger Marriage Even When It's Difficult
- Finding Rest for Your Marriage
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Tuesday Oct 26, 2021
Tuesday Oct 26, 2021
The world seems to always be ready to criticize and complain. What happens when those criticisms and complaints are directed at you? How well do you respond? In this episode, Stephen and Jonathan unpack how our responses to verbal barbs affect (and measure) our emotional growth journey. Discover the path of grace and love that sets your heart free from being offended and offers others the hope of Jesus.
Book: Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better
More Podcasts:
- A Biblical Framework for Emotions
- About Your Emotional Connecting Skills
- Essential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System
Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.com
Help for Women: Women.Bebroken.com
Help for Families: Family.Bebroken.com
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Thursday Oct 21, 2021
Thursday Oct 21, 2021
Learn more about Chris and Steph and their music at OutoftheDustMusic.com.
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- Restored to More: Clinton and Charity's Story
- A Thank You Letter from a Repentant Husband
- 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage
Tuesday Oct 12, 2021
Tuesday Oct 12, 2021
God calls his followers to live a life of sexual integrity (see 1 Thes. 4:1-8). Sometimes this is also stated in the phrase "sexual purity," which gets a lot of bad press -- even in the church. In this episode, our guest Jasper Hall, president of Pure Hope, helps us understand God's greater story of sex, how to reframe what it means to be "pure," and how we can better reflect the holiness and purity of Christ.
Learn more about Jasper and Pure Hope at PureHope.net.
More Resources:
Parenting in a Sexualized Culture
Join pastors, ministry leaders, and care givers in the sexual integrity movement at SexualIntegrityLeaders.com. (Next national Summit is April 28-30, 2022 in St. Louis. Mark your calendar!)
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