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This program tackles the tough subjects of porn, lust, sexual brokenness, and practical principles for living every day in sexual integrity.
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Jun 21, 2023
Jun 21, 2023
41 min
How can a man who has sexually betrayed his partner understand her grief process and why is this important for the potential restoration of the relationship?
Today’s guest is Karla Downing. Karla has been on the podcast multiple times and provides a wealth of wisdom and practical advice for couples navigating difficult challenges in their relationship. In this episode, she helps men understand the grief process of a woman healing from betrayal trauma by highlighting each stage:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
- HOPE
Men, if you want to better love and serve your wife in her healing journey, this podcast will give you practical insights.
To learn more about Karla and her resources for couples, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources:
- Bebroken.org/men
- Bebroken.org/wives
- Untangling Emotions by Grove and Smith
Related Podcasts:
- The Recovery Process for Couples
- 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage
- Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal
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Jun 14, 2023
Jun 14, 2023
35 min
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Our guest today is Sam Black. Sam is the director of recovery education at CovenantEyes and the author of the new book, The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It.
In our conversation, Sam shares who he wrote this book for (pastors and ministry leaders) and why he wrote it (to help them better understand why people get stuck, why they often stay stuck, and how the church holds the answers for freedom, not just for individuals but for families and leaders, too).
To learn more about Sam and get a copy of the book, visit TheHealingChurch.com.
For a FREE copy of the book, go to https://www.signupanywhere.com/signup/hrmupv0t (available to the first 50 people; US addresses only).
More Resources:
- The Victory App
- Safe by Nick Stumbo
- Ministry to Transgender Individuals
Related Podcasts:
- How False Grace is Perpetuating Abuse in the Church
- Reframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity
- Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?
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Jun 7, 2023
Jun 7, 2023
31 min
“A life unexamined is only half-lived.” -paraphrase of Socrates
We talk all the time in our ministry and on this podcast about men needing to get on a growth mission, especially as it pertains to emotional growth.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I get passionate about helping men grasp why it is important to understand yourself and how to learn yourself in a way that leads to greater peace, joy, and love.
If you feel stuck or confused about how you fit into God’s great design and plan, you will be encouraged by this episode. You are greatly loved and have a great purpose.
More Resources:
- Growth Map by Stephen Cervantes
- Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop
- Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith
Related Podcasts:
- 15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men
- Why Men Struggle to Love
- How to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature
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May 31, 2023
May 31, 2023
29 min
Conflict is inevitable in marriage. But often couples assume that all conflict is bad or wrong and believe the goal is to eliminate it altogether. But my guest today has a different approach when it comes to conflict in marriage.
His name is Andrew Arthur and he is a mediation specialist with both personal experience and professional expertise in addressing conflict in marriage. In this episode, Andrew helps us to normalize the reality of conflict, gives a simple definition of conflict, how to navigate the needs and interests of both parties in the conflict, and unpacks the 5 specific “conflict styles” and how they intersect in marriage.
If your marriage is struggling with conflict and how to resolve it in constructive ways, this conversation with Andrew will help.
To learn more about Andrew and the mediation services he offers, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.
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Related Podcasts:
- I'd Rather We Fight than Not
- Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
- The Goal is Connecting
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May 24, 2023
May 24, 2023
32 min
Today’s subject matter is something we rarely like to talk about, but is extremely necessary for parents considering the sexualized culture we live in. Our topic is protecting your child from predators.
Our guest is Dr. Beth Robinson, a licensed professional counselor, professor, and a certified school counselor with over 25 years of experience in caring for traumatized children and educating parents on how to better protect their children from danger.
In our discussion, Dr. Beth helps parents deal with their fears around this topic, when and how to talk to their kids about sex and safety, how to choose a baby-sitter, what to do if parents think their child is a victim of sexual abuse, addressing technology, and more.
To learn more about Beth and the resources available to parents who want to better protect their kids, visit KidsCallMeDoc.com.
More Resources:
- Protecting Your Child from Predators by Dr. Beth Robinson
- The Safe Touch Coloring Book
- Critical Conversations Webinar for Parents
Related Podcasts:
- Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World
- God Made Boys and Girls
- Fighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About Sex
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May 17, 2023
May 17, 2023
28 min
A life of peace and joy and hope is intimately tied to one’s ability to connect well in relationships. And when you have experienced trauma or addiction or shame this skill can seem virtually impossible to imagine.
In today’s episode, Stephen brings a multitude of comments made by men who struggle to connect well in their relationships. We unpack these comments in hopes of helping you gain insight into your own connecting skills and make appropriate tweaks to improve.
More Resources:
- Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith
- Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy
- 40 Days of Training for Your Soul
Related Podcasts:
- 15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men
- Why Men Struggle to Love
- How to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature
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May 10, 2023
May 10, 2023
30 min
Boundaries are essential after betrayal, but few have any experience of knowing what boundaries to set and how to set them.
In this episode, Tammy Gustafson helps us navigate this delicate but necessary topic. Tammy is a licensed counselor who is passionate about helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, and betrayal.
Boundaries are more than just drawing lines and enforcing consequences when they are crossed. They are about safety, responsibility, self-care, and the building (or rebuilding) of healthy relationships.
To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com.
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Related Podcasts:
- The Why and How of Boundaries in a Recovering Marriage
- Boundaries for Wives
- More Boundaries for Wives
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May 3, 2023
May 3, 2023
31 min
Addiction can be simply defined as a repeated cycle of unhealthy or harmful behaviors that gets worse over time. In order to break free from addiction, recovery must include understanding this cycle and how to respond differently to its triggers.
Today’s guest is Vern Tompke, a 30-year pastor, podcaster, and founder of Band of Brothers, a community of men helping men find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. Vern has developed what he calls the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle as a tool for helping men understand their addictive cycle and how to respond more quickly when tempted to go down old paths of self-destructive behaviors.
To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care or Vern's Podcasts.
Download the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle Diagram
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Related Podcasts:
- Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of Life
- Exposing the True Impact of Porn
- Breaking Free with Russell Willingham
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Apr 26, 2023
Apr 26, 2023
31 min
There is an old saying used in Alcoholics Anonymous, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” Also, you may have heard of a simple statement to describe insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over, but expecting a different outcome.”
If you want to be free from destructive and unhealthy patterns in your life, change must happen. But how can you know if change is actually occurring?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack some core principles and practices that will indicate if true change is happening.
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Related Podcasts:
- Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy Thinking
- How Do I Know He is Changing?
- For Men Who Want to Finish Strong
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Apr 19, 2023
Apr 19, 2023
30 min
For 20 years our ministry has been helping men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and pursue a life of integrity and purpose. And most of these men are married – all of whom need lots of growth in the area of emotional health and maturity.
Today, I get to interview Doctor Marriage. You have known him as my cohort and co-host, Stephen Cervantes. But he is a true expert on the topic of marriage and what it takes for husbands, especially, to revolutionize their marriage by focusing on emotional growth.
In this episode, we highlight three of Stephen’s workbook resources to help husbands grow emotionally:
- 49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional Skills
- Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy
- 40 Days to Oneness: Start Connecting with Your Spouse
To learn more about these resources and how to buy them, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
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Related Podcasts:
- About Your Emotional Connecting Skills
- Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?
- What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?
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